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People change people grow apart and thatâs ok. As someone with a lack of emotions permanence itâs already hard for me to recognize that people care about me unless Iâm reminded 25/8 and while Iâve worked on that and can now remind myself that people care for me; itâs somehow even harder for me to realize when that itâs ok if people are growing apart from me. Itâs inevitable. People growing apart from you is not a personal failure sometimes itâs just HAPPENS. Schedules change, distance change, levels of concern change, and thatâs ok.
I remember shortly after highschool ended a girl tried to poke fun at me for the fact that i âchangeâ friends often (I have several 6+ year friendships but thatâs besides the point LOL) but the truth is that Iâve always known when to let friends go and do their own thing. All of that is to say that life moves forward your circles change and youâre wasting time that you could be using to build stronger/new connections on things that have passed their course.
I remember shortly after highschool ended a girl tried to poke fun at me for the fact that i âchangeâ friends often (I have several 6+ year friendships but thatâs besides the point LOL) but the truth is that Iâve always known when to let friends go and do their own thing. All of that is to say that life moves forward your circles change and youâre wasting time that you could be using to build stronger/new connections on things that have passed their course.
Mar 13, 2025
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â€ïžIâve had sprinkles of acquaintances and light friendships with people over the years that I sometimes feel bad about losing touch with. But sometimes itâs nearly impossible to keep in touch with everyone and still have time to care for yourself and your core people. Iâve tried to stop apologizing for that and just try to let people know I appreciate them from afar. I feel like the older I get the more intentional I have to be with my time and the more healthy boundaries I need to keep. It may disappoint some, but true friends get it, and there will always be an ebb and a flow as life changes. I also feel like social media has wired us to be so hyper-connected all the time and itâs stressful to live up to the expectation of staying in constant communication with everyone youâve met and liked. Growing up is realizing you can like and enjoy the company of many people and you may not have the time or energy to extend to everyone you want. (And actually itâs also okay not to want to!) Not everything and every connection can stay the same and I need to constantly remind myself of that. I deserve to make space and time for myself so I can love my people better.
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im getting older and things are happening in my life that have shifted my priorities, and because of that i feel more detached from some of the friends that have been the closest to me for years on end. i dont have a problem with any of them specifically, i think this is just the natural progression of things. i had trouble confronting this at first, but accepting that growth also comes with certain sacrifices or loss is just a part of the process.
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đ±Everything comes full circle. Sometimes it happens sooner than later, and it often happens sooner than weâd have liked.
But just because something has an end doesnât mean you failed, including relationships. Sometimes you have different needs, goals, values, or communication styles. Other times youâve grown in unexpected ways and find yourself headed in a different direction than this person that you love. No one has to be blamed or made to be the bad guy. Itâs often just⊠change.
Change can still be painful. Make space for yourself to grieve what was lost, including the future you may have invested your hopes and imagination in, but know that endings create open space for new beginnings to take flight. There are other possibilities in store, believe you me!
But just because something has an end doesnât mean you failed, including relationships. Sometimes you have different needs, goals, values, or communication styles. Other times youâve grown in unexpected ways and find yourself headed in a different direction than this person that you love. No one has to be blamed or made to be the bad guy. Itâs often just⊠change.
Change can still be painful. Make space for yourself to grieve what was lost, including the future you may have invested your hopes and imagination in, but know that endings create open space for new beginnings to take flight. There are other possibilities in store, believe you me!
Jul 16, 2025
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đTHERE IS NO SUCH THING AS NORMAL. Stop trying to be something that you are not, stop trying to be copy-paste <insert substyle that you do not even really like you just don't know who you are if you are not following a trend> for the longest time, I had no identity, I didn't know who I was outside of micro-trends and what was popping off on the internet. I wanted so badly to be normal that everything I tried was slowly but surely killing my spirit. People are clay. We are covered in little fingerprints, little specks of dust, and pieces of lint. No one person is without these things. Normalcy implies that there is a standard, uniform way to mold clay. You can never be normal, and that is so beautiful that's what makes life so worth it. I tried so long to figure out the "normal" way to live life that I missed out on so many things my teenage years are over, and they flew past me. I spent so long trying to be a normal teenager that I forgot that the most important part of this age is trying to figure out who you are by yourself through your actions, through your memories, and through the people around you, not by following what is normal. I will never be normal, and I am so grateful, I will always be ME. My spirit will be unique. My mind will remain creative. I will never be normal, and I don't want to be.
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đOften people feel alone when they hear "no one is coming to save you" and yeah it's true, I was the only one who could save myself from the path I was going down, BUT everyone around me supported my growth, everyone who loved me showed me the same love before AND after I had changed. No one will save you but they're right beside you <3
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âłI made this up in like 10 minutes but this has been my thought process as an "ex" introvert
Should I Stay or Leave? A Decision Flowchart for Introverts
Am I feeling unsafe?
Yes â Is it because Iâm anxious, or is it a genuinely unsafe situation?If anxious/new: Wait 20 minutes to see if I acclimate.If still feeling unsafe after 20 minutes â Leave.
No â Move to the next step.
Am I feeling bored?
Yes â Can I find something interesting here?Yes â Engage with that.No â Suggest a more interesting activity.Did they change the activity?Yes â Stay and reassess.No â Stay for 20 more minutes.Still bored? â Leave.
No â Move to the next step.
Am I feeling uncomfortable?
Yes â Is it a normal level of discomfort?Yes â Give it 20 minutes and reassess.No â Leave.
No â Stay.
A reminder: Many people say, "Get comfortable being uncomfortable," but society often acts like being an introvert is a flaw, as if no normal person could be one. While it's good to challenge yourself, forcing yourself into situations that make you feel awful or completely uninterested isnât good for your mental health. Uncomfortable situations can help you grow, but if something makes you truly miserable, you should remove yourself. The best way to step out of your comfort zone is to understand why youâre introverted. I grew up introverted because I wasnât allowed to do much, but pushing myself outside my comfort zone helped me explore my personality. However, if youâre naturally introverted, thereâs no reason to force change. Instead, I recommend using a system to decide when to stay in a situation and when to leaveâlike a simple flowchart to guide your choices.
A reminder: Many people say, "Get comfortable being uncomfortable," but society often acts like being an introvert is a flaw, as if no normal person could be one. While it's good to challenge yourself, forcing yourself into situations that make you feel awful or completely uninterested isnât good for your mental health. Uncomfortable situations can help you grow, but if something makes you truly miserable, you should remove yourself. The best way to step out of your comfort zone is to understand why youâre introverted. I grew up introverted because I wasnât allowed to do much, but pushing myself outside my comfort zone helped me explore my personality. However, if youâre naturally introverted, thereâs no reason to force change. Instead, I recommend using a system to decide when to stay in a situation and when to leaveâlike a simple flowchart to guide your choices.