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lose your marbles once in a while. dont be violent or aggressive or wildly destructiveā¦
but about once a season why not let shit get to you? why not act out about it?
be petulant and a big baby. make it someone elseās problem that things arenāt going your way.
let the prophylactic brush fire of your little episode be cleansing. after itās out of your system, clean up whatever mess was made. press forward with renewed focus, the bright-eyed and smiling clarity of a baby still flush from its temper tantrum
Mar 7, 2025
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Itās okay, just not all the time!! Just a touch as a treat but then you MUST let it go.
Feb 28, 2025
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It's easy to get trapped in the intense emotions of those moments, and I'm sorry you're feeling that way. Try to distance yourself from the event as much as you can (don't take your work home, do something you enjoy after work, take a de-stressing nap, etc.) I've been in various support positions for over 10 years at this point, and you eventually start to get a thick skin for the irrational jerks out there, but here are some methods you can use to reframe things when it feels like too much:
- Think about the relative importance of the task at hand. So many things we get bogged down with in our day to day work is practically meaningless in the grand scheme of things. "We're not saving lives." is a phrase I hear quite a bit, so unless you actually are, it might help to think of how ridiculous it is for the person on the other end to get worked up over something not going as planned.
- Consider your worth as an individual in that moment. Just because your job is to help others doesn't mean it's not their job to treat you like a fellow human. I've had several managers over the years that have really stepped up in situations that escalated past the point of reason. Those moments helped me realize I should be advocating for myself more.
- Remember you're not responsible for other peoples' reactions. I have seen people start fuming over the most basic of obstacles, while others have approached fairly large problems with a completely calm, collected demeanor. Even if you were at fault for something that got messed up, an explosive reaction from the other side just exposes the type of person they are. It's not about you or your competence!
Hang in there, and I hope some of this helps
Aug 13, 2024
As a recovering people-pleaser, turns out the whole world doesnāt fall apart if instead of suppressing anger I actually let myself feel it from time to time š«Ø
Dec 7, 2024
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create without the thought it is āforā something. let the project be whatever it wants to be, and recognize you are bringing it to fruition because something vital within you is actualized in doing so.
when you create independent of outcome, the sense of pressure dissipates and thereās more room for originality and enjoyment.
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im not that cold
no one is ive ever touched
just like that, humanity affirmed
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