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As a guy I suffer from some toxic traits and I feel like I'm "less of a man" if I don't know how to hang shelves. So if you don't ask me to hang a shelf for you what am I good for?!??
Wished my dad built shelves. He can butter a bagel like nobody‘s business tho
Where do you find these men that want to do tasks? I’ve learned to just do it myself because none are up for any tasking
video game NPCs been doing this for decades and dudes be lapping it up. about time we brought this IRL
no this is it!!! women like being asked to do tasks too but it seems like a dude will always love doing a wordless Act Of Service for ya
babyoblivi0n True! I think the main difference is men struggle more with expressing their feelings so this is a really easy way for them to show care lol. One of the most accessible love languages with the least chance of getting it wrong. It’s so cute to me.
In my experience if I do a task that doesn’t qualify as an expression but for men I feel like it usually does. Inversely I also don’t think men receive my acts of service as an expression lol
soft yes exactly. by that logic anyone who has trouble expressing their emotions could benefit from being given a little task!
I was going to say Not All Men, but I do like doing things for people. So maybe Not All Men, but me yes.
this is very true! And it’s something the modern man and family has lost a sense of. The man used to be the provider of the family physically as well as monetarily! And he still ought to be.
joshuac you think men should still always be the ones providing for their families monetarily?
joshuac or maybe we are redefining what it means to exist in this world as individuals in community with each other as we examine system structures that haven't given us all equitable opportunities. We are in a major transition in our relationship dynamics and roles with the dawn of instant information.
dreamydoodledoo marxinista hello guys! I would really not like to start a debate in the pi.fyi comments section. But if you’re purely asking for my opinion, I think it’s such a beautiful thing for a man to be able to provide for his family, whilst his wife does something of equal (and arguably more) importance: raising posterity well—a challenge more difficult than we know. Similar to how Cephalus tells Socrates in the Republic that inherited wealth is better than earned wealth (this is Ancient Greek reasoning, not necessarily modern) because it allows a person to study arts of politics, philosophy, and justice which do not make money on their own, without having to worry about learning the art of making money. When a man provides monetarily for his family, the mother, being in my opinion more naturally inclined towards relationship and caring for the children than men, is able to devote her time to raising the children in virtue and love.
that was quite a wall of text wasn’t it. I hope I’ve provided some insight into why I think the way I do 😁
@JOSHUAC not trying to start a debate was genuinely curious what you meant! however i regret to inform you that that is all very bioessentialist language — (cis) women and men are not innately better at either raising children or having a career. surely you’ve met many successful, healthy people whose parents had the opposite arrangement? and, quite frankly, if (in a heterosexual relationship) a man is not equally adept at/prepared for caring for children than his wife, he should not become a parent… 🤷🏻♀️ some food for thought
i genuinely feel like a positive aspect of masculinity is like doing stuff in service to others in this manner… i feel like butches do it a lot too and it’s very sweet
One of my daily habits: "Fix or improve something."
...partly because fixing or improving things keeps me connected to the real world and not just swimming in the morass of words and bytes
GRAHM4NES from my experience it means he sucks LOL your mileage may vary though…
GRAHM4NES genuinely: he might not yet know the joy of Doing Things.
There's huge energy out there in support of Not Doing Things.
I google image searched “man doing a task” and every single photo was a man out of his depth at a laptop. Put them 2 work! Our men need manual labour based activities.
