i'm not insecure about it because a lot can be credited to my upbringing. So people overstep or don't know how to handle, and I've basically got different personas for them. Code-switching, is what it's called?
I'm not too little or too much for my loved ones though, because there's no such thing, it's just me!
Mar 1, 2025
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I'm always worried I'm not interesting enough. I haven't done enough, I don't know enough, to be funny or to be exciting company. I am not silly enough or energetic enough.
But I am also worried that I'm too much. Too demanding, too stubborn, too sarcastic. Too commanding, too talkative, too dismissive. I'm working on it but sometimes it feels that way.
I appreciate and like who I am and I am confident. But in those insecure moods it does feel like I'm wrong in all the ways possible, it's not usually one or the other.
Mar 1, 2025
I am very extroverted and open and will talk to anyone at length about anything. I have a very loud clear voice that carries almost too well. I give too much of myself to too many people too often. I will go to a DJ set alone and be the only person dancing, even sober I donโt feel shame or embarrassment to make a fool of myself. Even in preschool, I would go up to the loner kid and make an effort to include them.
People often recognize/remember me from school or a job years later and even if I donโt really recall them, they know who I am in an instant. I used to be more insecure about my too-much-ness but now I accept that I am who I am and have learned to love her. My husband is on the exact opposite end of the spectrum in almost every regard and I think thatโs why we work so well together and bring each other so much peace.
At the risk of seeming like a pick-me, I have attached this photo is of my short-lived foray into the world ballet that I think says a lot about who am I am and was.
Mar 1, 2025
Besides the basics of being well mannered and respectful to everyone, keep in mind you are not too much nor not enough.
NOT ENOUGH :
requesting your alone time is not bad
demanding respect is not bad
refusing to be touched by someone who is not close to you is not bad
not sharing your weekend with your coworkers is not bad
refusing to give your socials to new people is not bad
dressing casual because it feels comfortable is not bad
TOO MUCH :
asking for an explanation and clear reasons to something/situation is not bad
asking your people to remember your birthday is not bad
not giving your things (because you are a holder) is not bad
being always organized is not bad
demanding people to respect the schedule (to not come late) is not bad
Sooner or later you will meet people who have the same values as you and you might even find those who will deeply love you for these traits so don't feel bad and embrace your "flaws".
Jan 12, 2025
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it's totally cool to age and society still isn't equipped to deal with that.
Mar 27, 2024
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Sometimes you try your best and everything seems to hit the fan no matter how much you try, so you take that raincheck and take yourself out for a day.
Nov 27, 2024
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This is what I call it hahahah made by mums everywhere but the greased up version is sold along stalls in Mumbai. Two regular slices of white bread, buttered, and the middle filling is cream cheese with red onions, coriander/cilantro, tomatoes and some minced chillis. All veggies chopped mini cube size so they blend with the cheese. Toasted crispy.
Apr 3, 2024