physically I like a man with an air of refinement but also an edge bonus points if he looks like he could be and probably is my cousin itās that deeply engrained aristocratic urge for inbreeding ;)
More importantly: curious, thoughtful, artistic, erudite, passionate, perceptive, irreverent, full of depth and complexity, eccentric, funny, unafraid to challenge me, as smart as or preferably arguably smarter than me which honestly is a nearly impossible bar to clearā¦
āThere are two ways to reach me: by way of kisses or by way of the imagination. But there is a hierarchy: the kisses alone don't work.ā
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Feb 26, 2025
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more evidence for the case Iām building that weāre gonna get married some day
Feb 26, 2025
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No but that is generic. If I look at my wife as objectively itās:
- her intellect, sheās so smart
- her drive, and her competency at work
- kindness, and how people love that about her
- Sabrina Carpenter is built like her (not the other way around)
Its funny because weāll watch a tv show and develop crushes and they always have to meet ^^^ or else Iām not interested.
Feb 26, 2025
I just remembered that a loved one who is forced to deal with me quite often says that Iām like Lestat de Lioncourt (TV version) and one of my closest friends confirmed. So thatās another one š I am a bit of a self-centered diva, charming, an aesthete with a flair for the dramaticā¦ but deep down Iām sensitive and tender-heartedā¦
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My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebodyābe it a relative or one of my best friendsāwas to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too š
Feb 23, 2025
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Iāve been thinking about how much of social media is centered around curating our self-image. When selfies first became popular, they were dismissed as vain and vapidāa critique often rooted in misogynyābut now, the way we craft our online selves feels more like creating monuments.
We try to signal our individuality, hoping to be seen and understood, but ironically, I think this widens the gap between how others perceive us and who we really are. Instead of fostering connection, it can invite projection and misinterpretationāpreconceived notions, prefab labels, and stereotypes. Worse, individuality has become branded and commodified, reducing our identities to products for others to consume.
On most platforms, validation often comes from how well you can curate and present your imageāselfies, aesthetic branding, and lifestyle content tend to dominate. High engagement is tied to visibility, not necessarily depth or substance. But I think spaces like PI.FYI show that thereās another way: where connection is built on shared ideas, tastes, and interests rather than surface-level content. Itās refreshing to be part of a community that values thoughts over optics.
By sharing so few images of myself, Iāve found that it gives others room to focus on my ideas and voice. When I do share an image, it feels intentionalāsomething that contributes to the story I want to tell rather than defining it. Sharing less allows me to express who I am beyond appearance.
For women, especially, sharing less can be a radical act in a world where the default is to objectify ourselves. It resists the pressure to center appearance, focusing instead on what truly matters: our thoughts, voices, and authenticity. Iāve posted a handful of pictures of myself in 2,500 posts because I care more about showing who I am than how I look.
In trying to be seen, are we making it harder for others to truly know us? Itās a question worth considering.
Dec 27, 2024
Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately ā
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Feb 27, 2025