I used to go in looking to fall in love. This ended quite poorly. I might’ve also been a love addict, separate issue from apps really. But anyways, now it’s meeting new people and getting out of my routine. Went rock climbing with a lovely and kind person tonight, ate tacos and had great conversation. So I wouldn’t have done that without hinge. Especially rock climbing. Turns out rock climbing is actually really fun. I think luddites and boomers might be on to something with the slow burn, courtship, long crushing and pining when it comes to love. Don’t know if the apps are conducive to that. Should say im a pretty bad person to take dating advice from. But yea keeping it low stakes and getting to know people is sick, can’t hurt yea ? *sub rec*: rock climbing. Great full body workout, challenges the mind a bit as well.
Feb 26, 2025
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Yeah I think my intentions have just shifted in recent months to wanting love and I dont think an app is going to get me there. Rock climbing is lovely and addicting though I’m glad you had that experience
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I linked a rec I made over a year ago about deleting hinge and dating the old fashioned way. have I been on a single date since then? nope. do I stand by what I said? absolutely.
I’m still convinced that the apps aren’t perfect, and while they might work for some people they’re kind of a necessary evil at best. without them, it’s hard to put yourself in contexts where meeting someone organically is possible. and even then, within those contexts the meeting has to be just that: organic. it takes time. it takes being in places/situations regularly where you think you’ll meet people who share your interests/values. it also takes a bit of effort to initiate those interactions, and also fate that someone might initiate something with you.
the apps are a convenient, quick fix, instant gratification solution to the issue in that they will get you dates, but in exchange for quantity you may sacrifice on quality. things of quality have no fear of time, though. waiting to encounter someone who is a good fit and in a good phase of life to be what you need and vice versa is going to take time. and if you work a 9-5 like I do, you’re going to have to invest in putting yourself in situations to meet people in your free time. or just do what I do and develop crushes on your superiors in the workplace that are doomed to never be realized because of HR protocol. i’d advise against the latter, though.
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im gonna ramble for a second. i have a real distaste for dating apps, but despite this i still don’t delete them. a small part of me thinks it’ll work out in my favor one day. but shoutout the loyal storylikers i’ve gained from failed hinge talking stages hahaha… i have a very loose definition of ‘type’ in terms of physicality, and even then someone physicality is never a deal breaker. usually. i don’t think i am meant to meet people this way. and i think a lot of people also say this so i am not original in this feeling, but i think i need to fall in love with a friend, someone that there is already a baseline compatibility with, a mutual appreciation already there. all the fanfic i read as a kid was a friends to lovers trope! and i think it works for a reason. that being said its scary to become friends with someone and then think your feelings are further than platonic, because now its hard to decipher between what could be deliberately flirty or just like. your standard hang ykno? i still have never successfully deciphered this so i don’t wanna stand on my soapbox and act like i have any real expertise. just thinking out loud. i’ve been kinda lonely recently and everyone around me has been getting into relationships, this venus retrograde is no joke haha. and the added nuance to the lesbian dating experience, ive been feeling more isolated than usual. sorry this one’s a bummer a little!!! maybe i should stick to album / song reviews
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i think trying to summarize our indescribable human souls in hinge prompts and swiping through people like they’re restaurants on doordash is probably bad for us. would love to be in love though! it sounds nice.
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Thought of this watching a PBS cooking show centered around local farmer and fisherman. Awkward pauses. Darting eyes. Canned jokes. I like this, it is human. I wonder if our arms race of conversation/persona monetizing is not good for us.
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