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getting offline
do y’all ever think about getting off social media but then you worry about how you’ll keep in touch with your friends? i’ve been thinking about this a lot bc i wanna delete ig but it’s where i talk to some of my rly close friends. i hate that it monopolizes connection like that. but i also had this realization that like the people i follow/follow me on ig are not “friends” they’re just superficial connections. real, deep, long meaningful relationships (which i’m craving) i think do require me to get the fuck offline and take the time i was mindlessly scrolling and putting it back into myself or my friends is where i’ll see the greatest positive feedback. and being PRESENT in those relationships. i feel like this is what that book the dopamine generation is about butttttt haven’t read it yet.
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@chronicwebuser
Feb 4, 2025
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@ilikepersimmons
If they’re genuine connections like close friends and family you most likely communicate mainly via text/whatsapp. IG is really just for doom scrolling, curating your life, and impression management. I‘ve kept it for doom scrolling and supporting my partners business but that’s about it, anything else is on email/text/call/facetime. Social media isn’t a necessity
Feb 5, 2025
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@donnasummerscam
I deleted my instagram like 2 years ago and had this same thought. I would say my circle of friends is smaller now, but not sure I could have really called it that before tbh. Main thing I learned was that friendships take effort, the folks I liked the most stayed and those that didn’t, I only see from time to time which is ok. I am very glad I did it, getting straight the reasons you want to will make the experience better :)
Feb 5, 2025

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@antifabricated
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To get off instagram
Generally speaking, I wanna reorganize the way I use the internet. I wanna participate and interact with people. I feel like on Instagram I’ve been worrying too much about the mystique I create for myself, like I’m constantly advertising myself. It feels icky and I’m ready to give it up.
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Honestly deleting social media (especially instagram) has widen my capacity for new Real world things in so many ways. Being more creative, having more original ideas, honestly just more time To think!!! I think the first month was an adjustment because it was like a dopamine cleanse, lots of overthinking and feelings of intense boredom A lot of the things projected onto me I realized were not even insecurities of my own but harbored in my brain because of tiktok/instagram I did worry about having FOMO and not seeing what my friends were up to but I can also just text them and ask ??? I feel like instagram especially is a very PASSIVE and superficial way of connecting with people. I definitely feel like my social circle decreased exponentially without it but for the better 🧍‍♀️
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