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the older i get, the more iā€˜ve realized that it’s okay to GTFO of situations that aren’t serving you. i’m not saying run or quit as soon as something gets hard, because challenges are how we grow and change. i’m saying listen to your intuition, find and follow your north star. you will know when it’s time. your workplace treating you badly or your job wearing you out? start looking for something else. in a relationship that’s toxic or that you can’t sparkle and thrive inside of? advocate for yourself and get out. your living situation bad for a myriad of reasons? start looking at your finances and figure out if you can move. all of this is to say, it is your life! be an active participant in it. i’ve quit jobs, apps, relationships, apartments, vices, etc. there is no shame in leaving the party early.
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Feb 2, 2025

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100%. And sometimes it’s not even that hard to get out and is actually taking so much more energy to keep it going that you just have to allow yourself to let go. Youā€˜re clinging so hard to the idea of something that you fail to recognize that you’ve been white-knuckling to get through it.
Feb 2, 2025
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YES! I go to the party just to leave early sometimes. It feels freeing.
Feb 2, 2025
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pearla i live for this energy. What a great way to practice!
Feb 2, 2025
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REAL!! that girl in the green top on antm who walked in said she didn’t want to be there anymore and immediately left is my role model for life
Feb 2, 2025
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divatron3000 an icon and a legend at setting boundaries. She chose peace!?ā˜®ļø
Feb 2, 2025

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