Try the A Bra That Fits Calculator to get an accurate size and also be mindful of your shape—shallow versus deep, wide-set vs narrow, fuller on the bottom vs the top, etc—because that can affect how different bra styles fit you. Check out Bratabase to see photo examples of how the same-sized bras fit on different women! I buy bras new or gently used on eBay and Poshmark or at Nordstrom Rack because I always want to get a deal.
Jan 17, 2025
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lilyanne i neglected to tell you that finding a bra that fits well is not even just about the band size it’s about the spacing depth/shallowness and shape. so many bras can be a disaster even if I’m wearing the right size just because bodies can be so different!! i recommend Bratabase where bra autists have meticulously compiled a database of bra photos to show how different bras fit different sizes ☝️🤓
Apr 11, 2024
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Aka seeing that two people liked my boob oracle post from last year and being confused for a while before seeing taterhole just posted about bra sizing
Jan 18, 2025
go-to brand for busty gals! I'm a 34dd(e) and their bras changed my life.
specifically love the norah seamless comfort bra although it's unlined so nips are out. their cup and wire-free bras are great too and they sell at Nordstrom if you want to try on.
Sep 18, 2024
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My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌
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I’ve been thinking about how much of social media is centered around curating our self-image. When selfies first became popular, they were dismissed as vain and vapid—a critique often rooted in misogyny—but now, the way we craft our online selves feels more like creating monuments.
We try to signal our individuality, hoping to be seen and understood, but ironically, I think this widens the gap between how others perceive us and who we really are. Instead of fostering connection, it can invite projection and misinterpretation—preconceived notions, prefab labels, and stereotypes. Worse, individuality has become branded and commodified, reducing our identities to products for others to consume.
On most platforms, validation often comes from how well you can curate and present your image—selfies, aesthetic branding, and lifestyle content tend to dominate. High engagement is tied to visibility, not necessarily depth or substance. But I think spaces like PI.FYI show that there’s another way: where connection is built on shared ideas, tastes, and interests rather than surface-level content. It’s refreshing to be part of a community that values thoughts over optics.
By sharing so few images of myself, I’ve found that it gives others room to focus on my ideas and voice. When I do share an image, it feels intentional—something that contributes to the story I want to tell rather than defining it. Sharing less allows me to express who I am beyond appearance.
For women, especially, sharing less can be a radical act in a world where the default is to objectify ourselves. It resists the pressure to center appearance, focusing instead on what truly matters: our thoughts, voices, and authenticity. I’ve posted a handful of pictures of myself in 2,500 posts because I care more about showing who I am than how I look.
In trying to be seen, are we making it harder for others to truly know us? It’s a question worth considering.
Dec 27, 2024