Like for real. Live in the moment!!!! I know itâs cheesy, but I let my teen years fly by in hopes of something better, and I regret it so much. Dive deeper into your interests, try new things, donât get too hung up on limitations!! Live to the fullest, just because youâre young doesnât mean you canât do everything!!
Jan 14, 2025
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Iâm about to turn 30 and idk if my 21 year old self would approve of where Iâm atâbut my 6 year old self sure as hell would!! I think a lot of life is finding your way back to Little You.
Being 21 is so so hard, and in college youâre first starting to see that you canât judge your progress based on other people. Even though thatâs how you were taught to judge yourself up until this point. The things you want now probably wonât matter to you in a few years, and for me that would have sounded terrifying at 21. But that doesnât mean the things you want now arenât important.
You can think of it in terms of tattoos. If you get a tattoo at 16 itâs not because you know it will represent you always and foreverâitâs to commemorate a moment, a feeling of boldness you wanted to wear proudly. And down the line you donât look at it with regret, but a softness for that younger part of you. Feel your feelings fully in this moment! Be bold with what you care about! Every age is special.
Practical advice:
Try to listen to your body and not your head. Do I actually like how I feel spending time with this person? Am I going through the motions of this hobby because I think it will service something else? Does xyz come naturally to me, or does it feel forced? No action needed. This exercise isnât about flipping your life upside down, just take notice of how your body feels in certain situations. Start to notice when youâre in fight or flight versus happy and free. Find the ease and follow it
Jan 25, 2025
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as a 25 year old who had just turned 21 right before the pandemic hit i often have very similar feelings that i missed out on a formative time of my youth and that im âbehindâ where i should be right now (especially in terms of self/identity development), whatâs helps me is i try to zoom my thoughts waaayyyy out and think about how when im older someday ill prob envy 25 year olds too and then i decide to just try my hardest to live in the moment forever and cherish being here in the first place cause in the grand scheme of things aging is a gift!!!! easier said than done of course but this is what helps me
Jul 12, 2024
First of all, this is definitely normal and youâre absolutely not alone in it. But I think you may be ascribing self-actualization and self-assuredness to those a few years younger than you a little too hastily. People who had their middle-school years disrupted by the pandemic also dealt with/continue to deal with the effects of missing out on formative social and personal development, all the while with less developed brains! Not to mention the people youâre seeing are the ones out at shows, not the ones staying home with social anxiety or panic attacks. So although it may seem from your observation that people in this age range are doing just great, it sounds like youâre comparing yourself to a skewed group through an internalized lens of cultural bias towards youth â quite a combo. And thatâs just not being fair to yourself. The fact that you are getting back out there is big and needs to be acknowledged. Instead, youâre positively projecting and amplifying, i.e., seeing in them what you are having trouble finding in yourself. But it is in there â the proof is that youâre showing up. Same thing for self-expression â have you seen your own pfp? You seem cool af!
Because of the pandemic, youâve had a unique and unfortunate generational experience of this âarrested developmentâ, but this also creates an opportunity to further the paradigm shift that royallmonarch focused on in his lovely essay. Societal expectations based around age are out; living your life on your own timeline is in.
Life happens; shit happens. But youâre getting through it and youâre doing great.
Youth/very young adults who make their youth their personality are actually boring people. Adults who pine about their younger days are also boring. Donât be either! And if it makes you feel any better, I was at my peak ârecklessâ right at your age; I got a âlateâ start. You have so much time to keep doing fun stuff and most importantly, to figure out what you like and donât like. Iâm in my 30s and Iâm going to a friendâs rave tomorrow. Ok, itâs a well-organized, well-curated event and not some shit-show in the bush, but still. Itâs not over for me! Another night, Iâll stay home and pet my cats. Either way, Iâm doing whatever the fuck I want. People take up painting or whatever in their 80s. The sooner you get on that vibe, the better.
Ok go have fun!
Jul 11, 2024
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Iâm not a mother and to be completely transparent I donât really want to be one ever. Something struck me so deep in my poetry class last semester that probably pushed me farther into not wanting children, poetry about motherhood. It must be my knack for empathy and passion that connects me so hard to these poems, who knows. I really really love these poems. âMetaphorsâ by Sylvia Plath and âthe motherâ by Gwendolyn Brooks, to name a few. There was an especially hard hitting one about being a stay at home mother, but itâs escaping me in the moment. If I remember it I will come back to this. I have an inkling that fellow women in their 20s may relate to this, and if not I would recommend going down a rabbit hole. Itâs existential but who doesnât love that?
Jan 20, 2024
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Not a new crush.. but Babygirl reignited it..
Jan 27, 2025
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Listen to Jockstrap. Itâs made up of Georgia Ellery (also in Black Country New Road) and Taylor Skye, and they go sooo hard. Georgia is the voice and plays multiple instruments while Taylor is more on the production side. I went to their Pitchfork Aftershow in Chicago last year and I have never had so much fun at a concert. Taylor sits onstage and literally just deejays the whole time (which is not a jab at him, he is a genius). Georgia sings, plays instruments, and performs for her LIFE. Itâs a must listen, must see, must know.
Here are some of my favorites of theirs;
- City Hell
- Glasglow
- Sexy 2
- 50/50 (Extended Mix)
- Hayley
LISTEN LISTEN LISTEN!!!
Jan 20, 2024