i actually did this a while back, and even starting to write it is a good way to start having this quality alone time. thinking about what you can include on the list is a way to understand yourself better, what you like to do on your free time and how you can make it enjoyable for you. even if you can't think of anything right away, it can become a list of things you'd like to experiment.
for me, personally, it helps because (1) i love making lists on itself, so, as i mentioned, just writing this one was a good start and (2) sometimes i'm bored and not sure how to fill my day and i can just check the list and remind myself of those activities that i thought about/experimented before and enjoyed my time while doing them, even the obvious ones can escape my mind!
here's a few things that i have on mine that maybe you'd like as well:
- think less, write more;
- move your body: learn a new choreography, exercise, get up and go around the house 15 times. don’t fight the urge to move, just do it!;
- take more pictures and revisit the good memories;
- draw what you see; the more mundane, the better;
- learn new words of a language, imagine a scenario where you’re actually using them;
- wash your face, use skincare products, stare at your beautiful face in the mirror for as long as you want.
these are the veeeery simple and general ones that you can do without spending any money or that you can do right when you feel like just doing something. they are basically ways to start. but you should definitely try to write things that are more personal and fun to you! :)
Jan 11, 2025
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1. firstly, i think watching youtubers who spend a lot of time alone can help, it can give you an idea of how to spend the alone time you have
2. secondly, alone time is really good for getting to know yourself and what you like/dislike, it also gives you a chance to think without any outside noise (people)
3. thirdly, alone time doesn’t have to be boring at all! spending time alone is really good for independence as i think it can help with becoming more self reliant
4. keep in mind that a lot more people do things alone than you realise - examples include solo shopping, going to art galleries or events alone, eating out alone and you might have seen someone when you’re out who’s doing something alone but you’ve not realised mainly because it’s very normal
- go on walks and pick a new album to listen to or a new artist each time
- start watching a film or tv show, you could make your own cinema experience by eating popcorn and snacks and wrapping up in blankets
- do some journaling, scrapbooking or collaging, junk journaling is so fun and put on some music in the background to make it even more relaxing
- watch how to videos for creative projects, this is random but theres so many videos on origami etc and other types of paper craft, i made pipe cleaner flowers not too long ago and they‘re very easy to make
- watch something in another language, i love kdramas and watching them takes my mind off things mainly because i have to concentrate on the subtitles
Jan 13, 2025
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I realized I started feeling really disconnected from myself when everything became routine and I was trying to do only what needed to be done. It's the little things that really help you come back to yourself. When it's 10 pm and you want a cherry soda, just go for a little walk and get one. That movie you wanted to see but don't know who to go with, just go yourself. That new place you wanna try. The little stickers that you haven't used yet. Just realizing what you like and what brings you joy and even what doesn't.
Also when I started feeling this way I pulled up some random internet list of 365 questions to ask yourself or journal about and now I try to write a couple lines to a question when I'm waiting on the kettle to boil or on the bus or something. The direction of having questions to reflect on helps me. Sometimes I end up on a tangent but it still helps me pull together memories and ideas.
May 11, 2025
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Start by saying to self: everything is fine. I am grateful, I am happy. I have all that I need. Listing things help alot too, they don't have to be big stuff, or special even. Just reminding self of good things that you didn't expect. And having health, looking well, having good food (generally provisions).
Look at selfies from past and now. Things that help me see progression or improvement.
Learn something slightly off or "not your thing".
Talk nicely to yourself, the way you would cheer someone you love.
Spoil yourself, and cut yourself some slack.
Trawl https://www.reddit.com/r/Damnthatsinteresting/
Listen to music that makes you feel good.
Work out, even if it's just a walk. Admire things you walk by. They don't need to be stunning. But the fact that you noticed, feels good to you.
Talk to a friend or a stranger. Complimenting someone is like complimenting yourself. It reveals more about you than the other person. You can compliment yourself too!
Caress your own face. breathe and say, I am loved, I am precious. Even if I don't know where things are going, I will be my own biggest fan.
Aug 23, 2024
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i can't stop thinking about this movie ever since i watched it! it is so much fun and i recommend to everyone that i know would appreciate it.
Jan 15, 2025
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lost access to my ig account a while back and i think it would've been way easier to recover it if i had cared about and setted up two-factor authentication before, so! maybe you should check that out
Jan 10, 2025
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when i was a little kid playing chase, i tripped and fell on my knee on a manhole cover. it's the only thing that makes me think that i had a somewhat active childhood because most of my memories consist of me drawing or writing in safe and very still places. i tripped on that manhole a lot, actually, so what i really have is two scars, and both on the same knee! these are my only scars, i really should've avoided that little space of the sidewalk more.
Feb 24, 2025