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i’m sick of focusing so much on what “looks good“ and “fits my body”
a new idea that i would like to focus on is if i feel Comfortable in the item. if i feel cozy. because yeah this tshirt is billowing over me and draping over my entire body but i feel comfortable in it. and maybe one day the draping bothers me and i don’t feel comfortable-which means i don’t wear it! and i shouldn’t necessarily care if it’s “good” or “bad” stylistically because if i feel comfortable and i feel ready to take on my day in it then that’s what matters right?!
Jan 11, 2025
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i was never anti outfit repeating necessarily, but i would think about how recently i wore an article/ensemble or where i wore it, who saw it etc. lately i’ve been rewearing outfits that make me look and feel good without thinking too hard about it and like… i look and feel good
Jan 28, 2024
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i’m fat so sadly i’m quite limited because a lot of shops don’t carry anything over XL (they hate me) and thrifting is often tough too. for basics i usually end up going to target or old navy or sometimes tj maxx. thrift stores are slim pickings sometimes but i have better luck with jackets, shoes, and skirts than other items that might not be cut right for my shape.
comfort is paramount cuz when i’m not i get distracted and annoyed and i’m also reminded of my body image issues instead of focusing on the people around me. when shopping, i discard anything that tugs or makes me feel constrained even a little bit cuz i know that will end up hanging in my closet untouched. i have to be able to touch the fabric and i always look for quality materials that feel good and will last.
as for actual style, i love earth tones and jewel tones and colorful, unique patterns. sometimes i dress as a fun aunty, other times i attempt a more casual street style. i love leather accessories, they're classic and last forever. i’ve had great luck thrifting beautiful leather shoes and purses. wearing earthy colors and materials makes me feel calm and elegant and close to nature. i also love a fun statement jacket although it’s rarely cold enough in Austin to wear them for long.
i look forward to having more time and energy (and money) to put towards developing my personal sense of style ✨
Sep 13, 2024
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comfort has been my main focus since i was a toddler & i’m trying to honor that intuition in adulthood. i want to feel comfortable in my own skin & wardrobe, which is a challenge as a bigger woman raised in purity culture & fashion as vanity. i’m still most comfortable in modest looks & don't see that changing. the quality & texture of fabric is important to me as well. i don’t like anything that tugs or clings in an irritating way.
i’m also pragmatic so i want functional clothing that will last & i'm trying to build my mending & maintenance skills. i love leather shoes & bags, they’re so warm & classic & durable. i love buying thrifted things that have some life in them already. i love having one-of-a-kind pieces that i can make my own.
i often feel stuck between wanting to express myself through style & wanting to be as nondescript as possible. i like the validation of a good fit but also hate making an entrance. sometimes i’ll put together a look i love & then i’ll swap out one of the elements to ruin it cuz i feel too intimidated. i don’t know if this is because of social anxiety or body image issues or my feelings of not belonging throughout childhood. maybe this is my way of avoiding distraction so i can be present with the people around me.
aesthetics-wise, i love dressing like a fun auntie sometimes (typically in spring/summer) & other times i want to lean more masc with edgy streetwear looks (fall/winter). unique prints are a must, rich earth & jewel tones, classic & sturdy footwear, handcrafted jewelry with a story behind it. idk how to weave together these competing energies of warmth & playfulness, stifled rebellion & hesitant individuality. still trying to identify what i like & give myself space to explore & express that!
May 9, 2024
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can’t stand meta and the monopoly they are trying to establish using profits made from our data
and i feel like everyone hates me on there
youtube shorts pi and texting are good enough
Apr 7, 2025
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1) i don’t need to be on the lookout for bugs. not my problem
2) it almost is like replicating the feeling of the womb?
3) i am just constantly so overstimulated so like instead having to Seek stimulation (via the shower water, reaching around for my shampoo and stuff) is really nice
Jan 24, 2025
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yes i have a compliment journal HAHA
i am just so difficult on myself and whenever people compliment me i think they’re lying/just saying it to be kind
but i’ve been writing them down lately in a journal i have to celebrate that even if they are Lying (which people never are btw and i’m working on believing that) they at least took the time to notice u to formulate this compliment
holding space for being noticed and allowing yourself to be appreciated!
Jan 24, 2025