Iām very excited about it and it just feels right. I think women start reaching their peak hotness at age 40 and then continue to age like fine wine so Iām looking forward to that too. My plan is to start seriously attempting to grow up in some ways but weāll see how that goes; Iām probably just going to extend my adolescence in other ways because I have the freedom to do that. Mostly I just keep thinking about how when I was a kid who were 30 seemed so OLD but to be fair itās not my fault they were like balding. Or like I keep seeing that people I know from high school are parents or watching things and being shocked that the mom characters are my age š¤” but I donāt know it honestly feels pretty meaningless and arbitrary to me to mark and judge my life using age as a measurement
Jan 9, 2025
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Iām really not ready to join the mid-20s club this year š I really hope aging becomes sexy for everyone so I can stop feeling like my value will decline as a femme person as I age š„²
Aug 3, 2024
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In other words, being 30. Feels good to be a grown up.
Jan 31, 2024
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30, 40, 50 ā theyāre nothing like how they looked when I was a kid!
Part of this I attribute to the Internet and feeling much more aware of or connected to the younger worlds than I otherwise would be. Plus I have no kids and few responsibilities.
I remember when my dad turned 40 and we had a party for him being āOver the Hillā with black balloons and stuff lol
Feb 18, 2025
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My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebodyābe it a relative or one of my best friendsāwas to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too š
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Iāve been thinking about how much of social media is centered around curating our self-image. When selfies first became popular, they were dismissed as vain and vapidāa critique often rooted in misogynyābut now, the way we craft our online selves feels more like creating monuments.
We try to signal our individuality, hoping to be seen and understood, but ironically, I think this widens the gap between how others perceive us and who we really are. Instead of fostering connection, it can invite projection and misinterpretationāpreconceived notions, prefab labels, and stereotypes. Worse, individuality has become branded and commodified, reducing our identities to products for others to consume.
On most platforms, validation often comes from how well you can curate and present your imageāselfies, aesthetic branding, and lifestyle content tend to dominate. High engagement is tied to visibility, not necessarily depth or substance. But I think spaces like PI.FYI show that thereās another way: where connection is built on shared ideas, tastes, and interests rather than surface-level content. Itās refreshing to be part of a community that values thoughts over optics.
By sharing so few images of myself, Iāve found that it gives others room to focus on my ideas and voice. When I do share an image, it feels intentionalāsomething that contributes to the story I want to tell rather than defining it. Sharing less allows me to express who I am beyond appearance.
For women, especially, sharing less can be a radical act in a world where the default is to objectify ourselves. It resists the pressure to center appearance, focusing instead on what truly matters: our thoughts, voices, and authenticity. Iāve posted a handful of pictures of myself in 2,500 posts because I care more about showing who I am than how I look.
In trying to be seen, are we making it harder for others to truly know us? Itās a question worth considering.
Dec 27, 2024