the trad social media i use the most is instagram. the main reason I stay on it is that it's kind of how i hear about anything that's going on. that includes all the things that make me go "wow I'm so glad I heard about this thing I can do" but also all the things that make me go "aww man ā˜¹ļø". been trying to strike a balance with how much of that noise I let into my life right now, so I've been relegating my instagram use to just on my browser on my personal laptop which i leave at home most days. trying to get back into having a dedicated "screen time" for socials so I can still keep up with things but I'm not just constantly bombarded with notifications and stories and new posts and news and current events and also what my friends are doing and also what local businesses are doing and also what bands and musicians I like are doing and also ADS ADS ADS ADS ALL THE TIME I DONT WANT TO BUY ANY OF THESE LEAVE ME ALLLLOOOONNNE trying to reclaim my peace of mind and my attention this year. tryna be like this but for the attention economy
Jan 6, 2025

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I feel the exact same way about social media, I fear that I will miss out and become old and outdated faster…I’ve realized that only using instagram on my desktop and really making an effort not to get distracted by my phone is really good for me. I guess I have to learn to be ok with not always knowing about everything that’s going on everywhere lol
Jan 6, 2025
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I can understand that, the constant urge to be updated about everything happening around the world, trying to know everything as soon as possible to be relevant in the society. That was me until i start reading books (specially philosophy) but now i have accepted the fact that a person cannot know everything.
Jan 6, 2025
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farhan oh it’s no coincidence that I decided to distance from socials the same year I got really back into reading. reading Self Reliance with a group rn and I bet Emerson would have a lot to say about social media
Jan 6, 2025
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I’ve been limiting Instagram for a while, there was a good 3 months where I did check it at all and now I do every couple days for a few minutes. I’m also going to do that with TikTok and if I need to get hot/wholesome/random takes I’ll just get on here. A lot of people say they need Instagram to get their news, but for me it makes way more sense to listen to the radio, subscribe to email blasts, and just look at publications I respect now and again.
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1) i realized some time ago that alot of social media, with whatever algorithm they use, will try their best to push whats most popular to you. No matter if it’s positive or negative. So while Im on insta, I tend to delete the app and redownload it a day later when I catch them doing that. It’s like a mini reset but not really. But alongside that, i have made the conscious effort not to doomscroll and to dislike and report posts/comments/videos that are willfully harmful and spread misinformation. 2) i look back into the areas where i spent a lot of time online as a child when i didn’t have social media. And that place was Youtube and rewatching comfort shows and finding new outlets that don't trigger me. Sometimes that’s finding people online that only have like 5k subscribers. The other well known site that doesn’t have awful people on there is Pinterest šŸ˜‚ i never had an awful time on there outside of the ads 3) like i am the child of the house, i limit the content on my phone. On the Iphone at least you can set timers to how long you have been on an app each day and block certain websites.
Jan 19, 2025
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once i got realistic about what type of content i consumed on ig and twitter, i realized so quickly it was not expanding the way i think and in fact was keeping me stuck in the same (oftentimes negative/harmful) thought loopholes. social media is addictive in part because it algorithmically reproduces the way we already think. it keeps us comfortable. start questioning: what can help expand your life? what other creative and consumptive outlets do you find fulfilling? is there a book you want to read? something you want to draw or write about? or, in general, consider how your older self would have wanted your time to be spent. you are so right that social media makes us feel Bad-- but we don't have to! it is an act of self-care and deep love to work on stepping away from things that hurt! as far as practical tips, the best things that helped me were: a) like some others mentioned, deleting ALL social media apps from my phone so i can only access them on my computer. this helps because the online interfaces are a lot clunkier so it reduces some of the quick gratification that keeps you addicted. also you have to be literally sitting at a desk to use it, so the portability aspect/mindless scrolling is largely removed. b) keeping a journal because it's a much safer space to dump thoughts than a private story c) prioritizing in-person connection rather than mediating relationships through tech-- meet a friend for coffee! cultivate intimacy rather than superficiality, and notice how irl vs. online connection feels different d) nervous system regulation and grounding practices to counteract how scrolling can make you anxious/stressed/disembodied! finally i did struggle a lot with fomo and being behind on trends at first but then i realized it doesn't really matter. trends are fleeting. even without chronic online-ness i am still funny and relatable and i find it much more interesting to hear about people's lives when i haven't been informed about them in an endless information stream online!!
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I consume a lot of music regularly, and a huge part of keeping a fresh diet of new listens going is having enough sources of recommendations that aren’t an algorithm that either 1) reinforces your existing listening patterns, keeping you stagnant in your tastes, or 2) platforms whoever paid enough to push their product to the top, serving you something that may not inherently be of inferior quality, but may not align with your tastes, may not be exciting beyond just being a new release, and realigns your current listening habits to be more in line with what the average user on the platform is also listening to — which socially might have benefits but which creates a homogeneity of consumption that can become bland since you’re listening to something really just because it’s the next product on the assembly line to have its public moment and not because anything about the music actually captured your attention. the current landscape of streaming is designed to keep you at an all you can eat buffet where you take what’s served to you, and as a result a lot of us have forgotten how to look at a menu and order. so what does taking a more active role in your own music curation look like? for me, it’s meant not using streaming as a primary listening platform. I mostly use my local Apple Music library on my phone that I curate with the vestigial iTunes Library framework that’s still a part of Apple Music on my laptop. probably going to find an alternative soon since apple seems to be cutting integration progressively. I like this method because it forces me to choose what to sync to the limited storage space I have, forcing me to take inventory of what I actually listen to and what I can offload. the files I get are mostly from Bandcamp or Soulseek depending on whether it’s available for purchase or entirely unavailable online (as is the case for a lot of electronic music that was on vinyl only, which is where soulseek comes in clutch). I also have freedom here to change the ID3 tags to better sort and organize, rate, change track info, and track my own listening data. Bandcamp and other music purchasing platforms are great because 1) it reshapes my relationship to music away from consumerism and back towards curation. I have to pay actual money for this thing now if I want to use it, so i’m forced to consider its value (usually i’ll stream a release first to gauge my interest). 2) having to spend money helps me to course out my meals so to speak, as i’ll buy a few releases i’ve accumulated in my cart over the month and cash out on Bandcamp Friday when 100% of my money is actually getting to the artist (TOMORROW IS BANDCAMP FRIDAY BTW!!!), and between purchases I can actually chew and savor and digest my last orders, they don’t get swept up in the deluge of new releases. my plate is full until i’m done and then I order more. also for the times of the year like now when new music isn’t coming out as regularly I take time to find older music that I would normally overlook while keeping up with new drops. currently very into early 80s/late 70s music with early digital production, kinda stuff that would evolve into synthpop and dance music. so how do you know what to order? for me, I’m getting recs through trusted curation platforms. whether it’s bandcamp daily, y’all lovely folks here on PI.FYI, friends, or most importantly musicians who I follow on socials that share their tastes through posts, stories, playlists on steaming, interviews, etc. I like this last one especially because it’s kind of like a musical game of telephone. if I like an artist and they share their interests and influences it’s like every layer in this process is stretching my palate further from the sound that I was originally interested in and into a new territory that has some shared DNA but would never have been recommended to me by an algo because there’s no shared category or label between them, only the musical influence and interpretation of it made by the artist. as an example, I was a huge Skrillex stan, he signed KOAN Sound to his label, they collab with Asa who collabs with Sorrow, Sorrow takes huge influence from Burial, Burial makes some ambient adjacent stuff and takes huge influence from 90s rave music and drum and bass and 2000s rnb, now i’m listening to Brandy - All in Me, William Basinski, Aphex Twin, none on whom would get recommended by Spotify to me from Scary Monsters and Nice Sprites. LAST thing i’ll say — because in yappin about this i’m realizing how actually passionate about this subject I am: MAKE LISTS! playlists are cool, but they can flatten your music into vague categories of ā€œvibesā€ and ā€œaestheticsā€ and encourage picking one-off songs from artists that you never form an active audience relationship with. I make a practice of making my own year end lists of top 25 albums (plus some honorable recs and top individual songs) and keeping them in a notes doc that I regularly update and rearrange over the course of the year. this forces me to consider the actual relationship i’m forming with what i’ve ordered for myself. did I like it in the moment but it didn’t have staying power? is it slowly growing on me? it also encourages taking albums as a whole. maybe I liked one or two tracks a lot but the rest wasn't resonating. that’s ok! maybe I rank it lower but now i’ve actually taken time to consider it, it’s in my library, and maybe (quite a few cases for me) something I ranked like bottom 5 albums becomes a retroactive favorite from that year as my tastes evolve. also 25 albums to take with me from each year is really more than you'd think, i struggle sometimes to even find 25 that I formed a true connection with. I think the biggest thing the itunes era ruined that led into now is the single-ification of music, the ability to separate the hits from the deep cuts. albums are meant to be taken as a whole, and then once you've really sat with the whole you can find what actually stuck. even then I like to keep the whole around because soooo often i’ll write off a track that yeeeears later I come to love. trust the artist, they made it like they did for a reason. aaannyyyywayy TLDR: get recs organically, be more active in deciding your listening patterns, fr*cken pay artists yall, trust the artist embrace the album, really consider what you consume
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