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My partner and I celebrate a holiday we made up called Merp Day based on a dumb joke we made two years ago. One of us made a āmerpā sound and it was around the time when saying āItsās givingā¦ā had really taken off. We thought it was funny to kind of sing to one another āItās givingā¦ merpā and thus a new holiday was born.
Thatās it. Thatās the whole story, but else other reason does there need to be?
Thatās just something any of us can do at any time. Create traditions to revel in the strangeness of our lives in this absurd and inexplicable universe! When the world practically seems designed to wear us down, finding cause to be joyous is its own form of rebellion.
So, happy third-annual Merp Day to all who celebrate!
Nov 26, 2024
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these are basically inside jokes taken too far, or silly excuses to throw theme parties. for example:
tomorrow Iām seeing an old friend for the first time in forever so we can celebrate Rex Manning Day and listen to music on vinyl and just generally catch up.
every october my friends and I celebrate Tommy Day, which is just a day where we get drunk and hype up our friend Tommy. Tommy Day always falls months after Tommyās actual birthday.
Apr 6, 2024
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Iām planning a last-minute holiday party, and itās given me a new lease on life! The idea first emerged six days ago. It stewed in my brain and tomorrow Iām making it happen. There will be sparkly outfits, an exchange of favourite books, gingerbread decorating, mulled wine, and charcuterie.
Iām going to be realāthis party is for me. Yeah, I want my friends to have a good time, mingle, etc. But I need this to preserve my own sanity. Planning gives me the chance to think creatively, do silly little tasks, and fight seasonal depression.
When I was younger I didnāt care for the holidays, but the older I get, the more I realise that I NEED to celebrate special occasions to the fullest. What else helps mark the days?
Dec 7, 2024
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I follow a different religion, unable to celebrate Christmas. But I can't deny how amazing the Christmas vibes, colors, music, and literally everything else about it is absolutely magical. I don't think anyone would argue haha
Instead of celebrating Christmas, my family plays games, watch Christmas movies, watch the christmas lights, and have a Pajama party.
Last year I invited my friends for one and it was so fun. We painted and even watched the movie Frozen āļø (hoping to have another this year) <(Ė¶įµįµįµĖ¶)>
Dec 25, 2024
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Iām not a parent and do not plan to be. Kids can wear me out fast with their high energy and noise level; it leaves me very over-stimulated. But itās pretty extreme when people say they āhate kidsā and I often feel itās a reflection of their childhood and beliefs around how kids āshould be.ā That they were expected to be quiet, obedient, and out of the way by their parents when they were little.
Itās fucking hard to be a kid. Youāre dealing with a rapidly-changing body and underdeveloped brain, managed by flawed adults who are enforcing boundaries that you do not understand. Itās confusing and hard to manage your feelings and honestly just a lot.
People are impatient with kids when theyāre brand new to the world and figuring it all out, and this is a time kids need a friend the most. Children can also be teachers to adults with how they are less habituated to the world. They teach us how to be free and open-hearted and silly and imaginative.
A good practice is to be kinder and gentler with kids. If that feels difficult, start with gentleness toward your inner child. Maybe thatās the child in your life that needs your attention and kindness most.
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I meant to post this yesterday. Absolutely beautiful morning for walk.
This morning is also beautiful but in a spring rain kind of way.
Mar 23, 2025
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Prescriptive gender is a prison. Rather than gender being a form of self-expression, gender is treated as a pass/fail test for how well you can conform to cultural expectations.
Since I was young, I remember feeling a great deal of pressure to conform to these expectations around what āmenā are meant to be. You like sports, cars, womanizing, aggression, and not having feelings. I felt so distant from this ideal. I was sensitive and shy, and I preferred spending my time being creative in some way
For a long time, I felt like I was failing at ābeing a man.ā In many ways I was! Because I didnāt need toĀ bea man. All I needed to be was myself.
Itās taken me a long time to separate myself from prescriptive gender, sharpening in on which aspects of masculine energy I identify with and which I donāt. Iām not done yet. Maybe I will never fully be. The self continues to evolve over time, and I suspect aspects of my gender will too.
Mar 15, 2025