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there’s something quite melancholy and cathartic about it, like wow, I’m old enough and I’ve been living in this neighborhood long enough to start to be recognized as a familiar face. i love that i can walk into my favorite coffee shop and be greeted as a friend, by baristas who know exactly my coffee particularities but don’t frown if i want something different from my usual order. it feels especially comforting on days i miss home and feel kind of alone, kind of afraid of being an adult. being a regular is feeling seen and known even by relative strangers, with whom you can connect over a comforting drink or meal! this is just one of the ways i love to cultivate a sense of home and community in my coming-of-age years— it’s so grounding to experience familiarity especially when you’re adjusting to living alone, recently moved to a new city, or otherwise needing to feel settled during tumultuous times!
Nov 11, 2024
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It just feels like a breath of fresh air in this digital age - got an old-timey feel to it.
Feb 26, 2025
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I know I’m sooo late to this (Im not a coffee drinker!)- I recently started being a coffee shop regular. It’s enlightening to have a place to chat, run into friends, read, and try new drinks. Sometimes these things feel limited to only alcohol-centric spaces and it’s great to have a spot to unwind after work each day. Chai lattes forever and always ❤️
Jul 31, 2024
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I'm sitting in the nearest coffee shop to where I live, which happens to be a Starbucks. When I walked in, the manager said "Good morning, Matt."
I've only been coming here a few months, one or two times a week, but it now it feels a bit like home.
— you may be looking for a different type of third place rec though, a place where you can definitely build community, and there's no guarantee of that at a coffee shop.
My impulse for me is to assume I'm not alone in this need/desire and to start something. Any place can become that third place, now the challenge is just getting people to join you there.
While still in college, I plastered "reading aloud night" posters around the campus and invited people to bring something to read aloud to others: either their own work or a favorite snippet from another author. A half dozen people came and we hung out until late in a common area—and then kept doing it. Some beautiful friendships started in that little group.
Sep 28, 2024
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undoubtedly my favorite conversational invocation. i use it a lot and i love to hear it.
imploring someone to tell you more shows such deep interest, attention, and love! curiosity is always the answer; learn more before you pass a judgment.
Nov 7, 2024
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i love being up early even when i don’t have morning plans. i can take my time enjoying breakfast, playing my little games, journaling, and stretching all without a rush. easing into the day and reveling in the quiet, gentle morning hours is a blessing! time feels more spacious!
Nov 9, 2024
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idk about you all but the second i get home i will be putting sweats or lounge clothes on. these clothes only see the indoors and are never exposed to the Outside City. god forbid my jeans or slacks touch my clean cozy bed!! let alone shoes... might be the asian grandmother influencing me but i find it a terrible crime to wear shoes in the house. a pair of slippers is much more comfortable! i find changing into a cozier outfit provides a wonderful mental transition into the coziness/safety of home PLUS it makes me feel extra put together, stylish, and focused when i'm goin out!! effectively switches my brain between work mode and relaxed mode.
Nov 17, 2024