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lots of good advice here so iām just gonna add that for me itās a lot of talking to people i trust - ideally older than me that i see as a mentor/guide or someone i look up to has always been helpful. also considering the actions of people i admire. and finally focusing on my ānorth starā which is a metaphor i learned last year - what it is youāre centering / pursuing / valuing most and then assess the potential choices in relationship to it. also sitting in nature and journaling about the choices helps me think through it better.p
Oct 22, 2024
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Ask for advice.
One benefit of asking for adviceāespecially from people whose lives and choices you respectāis that you get to observe the situation or decision from totally different perspectives and different sets of values.
You aren't asking them to make the decision for you, nor would you want that. It needs to be yours entirely. But more wise voices (within reasonable limits) may help you see with more clarity and rise above your biases.
Consider asking for advice from people you respect but who you think may tell you what you don't want to hear. No need to be afraid of that. The choice is still yours.
-- Also, I pay attention to my inner life: where are my emotions at as I imagine the different choices? Is there a particular lack of peace or anxiety with one or the other? That's good information.
One benefit of asking for adviceāespecially from people whose lives and choices you respectāis that you get to observe the situation or decision from totally different perspectives and different sets of values.
You aren't asking them to make the decision for you, nor would you want that. It needs to be yours entirely. But more wise voices (within reasonable limits) may help you see with more clarity and rise above your biases.
Consider asking for advice from people you respect but who you think may tell you what you don't want to hear. No need to be afraid of that. The choice is still yours.
-- Also, I pay attention to my inner life: where are my emotions at as I imagine the different choices? Is there a particular lack of peace or anxiety with one or the other? That's good information.
Oct 22, 2024
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šI contemplate these questions often, I feel like one conclusion I have come to is learning to trust myself first. Obviously sometimes that means you could be wrong, but when you listen to yourself - in your heart & in your gut - it has the answers more often than not. Sometimes that takes going through new experiences and learning new things about yourself. Allowing it to look like whatever it needs to look like. Some say utilizing stillness will help, but for others it may be chaos that helps to gather the insight and wisdom you seek.
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šiāve been having so many moments this summer of realizing what and who is actually important to me and it rocks! clarity! aging! getting to pick ā„ļø
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