I started going to shows alone about nine years ago and I’ve never regretted it! To set the scene, I mostly go to small shows with 20 to 150 people there. I am 50, have social anxiety, and almost always the oldest person in the crowd, sometimes decades older than anyone else.
As soon as a band I love starts playing, none of that matters! It’s just joyful!
If there are artists you love, you owe it to yourself and to them to go see and support them!
*that said, I’m a man and all this could be much different for a woman! I think people will look out for you, though. I know I do (but from a distance - I really don’t want to look like an old creep!)
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I am a socially anxious person and have managed to go to lots of concerts alone, from 10 people at a bar to 72,000 seeing tswift. It’s awkward, I won’t lie! Before a show and between sets it feels weird to stand around alone. Yes, nobody really cares if you’re alone (and other people will be alone too), but anxiety doesn’t know that!
But you probably have a phone to look at and that helps a lot. you also could talk to people and they’re probably nice but I can’t really speak to that!
Once the music is playing, everything is fine! But it’s important to say that I’m a cis white male and my experiences of being alone probably are very different than otherpeople’s.
Apr 25, 2024
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I started going to shows alone when I was in college for the same reason. Friends don’t always have the same taste as you, sometimes you‘re the only one in town, etc. I’m a pretty introverted person, but I’ve always been a believer in the idea that going alone and not having a good time is still better than not going and regretting it. It‘s more likely though that you’ll have an awesome time! The cool thing about going to a concert alone is that you have something in common with everyone in attendance (you‘re into the same artist and you’re in the same city). One of my closest friends is someone I met at a concert I went to alone. We just started talking in line before the doors opened. If you start feeling super awkward, just get there early and talk to people. If that’s not your vibe, just hang out and dance and sing to an artist you like. It’s very freeing and fun and low stakes bc you don’t know anyone there.
Oct 19, 2024
Ive never been the type of person who is comfortable going out in public alone, but a while ago, my friend and I were supposed to go to a Greg Mendez show and he got food poisoning; but I was not about to miss that gd show.
I was just like, fuck it we ball - and ended up having an awesome time, made a bunch of new friends, and met Greg & Lomelda so I’m officially an advocate for powering through the crippling anxiety and just going by yourself!
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