itās genuinely very hard for me to be mad at another personāunless they are genuinely being unreasonable and deliberately hurtful towards me. but even so, they usually have their own reasons
everyoneās allowed to live differently and make different decisions based on how they grew up and grew into the person they are, and i think understanding how inherently different we all are from each other is actually very importantānot enough people grapple with that, we donāt actually sit down and comprehend that before reacting and objecting other people
i also think we need to be more comfortable with saying āi understand why you think this is the case, i just donāt agree with you, and thatās totally okā
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Sometimes it's very frustrating when I listen to people complain about someone and they're just not even trying to look at it from their point of view. It's true that in some cases the other person is just being stupid or mean, but there's something a bit insidious happening nowadays where people will just not even try to put themselves in another person's position. It's a little bit depressing how little you hear "maybe she's right" or "maybe I'm wrong"
Sep 18, 2024
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I am able to see everything as multifaceted. I know there are more than two sides to the same coin, and I believe things shouldnāt be approached as they appear.
being able to recognize this has made me a more understanding person. Iām still a hater to my core, and I still make snap judgements about people cutting me off in traffic or being rude to me in the grocery store and the like, but as someone who works in customer service, it has helped me not take everything so personally. Someone snapping at me, or asking a lot of questions that may seem obvious isnāt necessarily a pock on their character. Someone may be having a bad day, or is really tired, or high, or just hasnāt been here and they are overwhelmed because everything is new and different. I am also able to avoid spiraling about my personal relationships because it really is not about me all the time. And even if/when it is about me, it most likely not malicious. A lot of people have anxieties they donāt recognize actively, but they still act on them. And that is okay. We are all people, we all fuck up, and we all keep living.
Mar 6, 2025
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I just think of this all the time. Although we can always agree or share the same things that other people might do (especially those that have a conflict with our moral compass), I think we can try to put ourselves in others' shoes, and try to see others persons' point of view. Not to agree, but to learn and understand a little bit better where they are coming from.
I try to do this. I confess... I'm not an angel, or the best person in the world. I have a lot of flaws, but thinking of this, and trying this, has helped me to have a little bit easier life.
What do you think? I'm open to learn more about your points of view š¤
Apr 23, 2024
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sure yes i can check your story and know what youāve been up to today but who the fuck cares. iām live texting you as i descend into drunkenness, sending you screenshots of weird emails, incorrectly correcting typos because weāre like š¤š¼ this
traditional social media are boring, all you need is a few close friends on letterboxd, pi.fyi, last.fm, plus i got your #, iām gonna text u
Mar 7, 2024
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it basically means āiām here already, i might as well be at peace with itā
started truly believing in it a few years ago when i first moved to nashville. there are a lot of things i donāt like about my life, down to daily tasks like having to wait for a bus despite being an impatient person, up to not being proud of my own family dynamic, but i'm learning to make peace with itāthis is the one life iām gonna have, and some things i just canāt change, whether thatās for now or for a long while
Aug 29, 2024
why are there so many texts and emails at 8am in the morning donāt you all know peace
Jul 15, 2024