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always hated it. It was funny like one time. idk if it’s that insidious or whatever it’s just dumb and annoying
I think we say “Im just a girl” because we grew up hearing “boys will be boys “ as an excuse for the stupid stuff they do.
Baby i see the point and it was cute initially, i just think there was a point where a lot of the “girl” stuff tipped into an unironic territory that i‘m not fond of
Baby the only argument here is the assertion that everyone who doesn’t like the “I’m just a girl” joke simply missed the true point of the joke, which you’re asserting is some kind of progressive play on “boys will be boys.” So you’re not convinced that the joke—while potentially well-intentioned, which I personally don’t see any evidence for but which I will accept for the sake of your argument—careened into socially regressive territory, or you’re not convinced that Cherry (and the other deranged women who find it unfunny/embarrassing/infantilizing 🙋🏻♀️) understood the point of the “I’m just a girl” thing? Just a bit unclear
i obviously dont mind because i AM a teenage girl but it is really strange to be how the lyrics that inspired this trend about hating being considered “just a girl” were flipped on its head. it has lost it’s irony altogether
LMAAOOO 100% I’ve been tryna force myself to call anyone over 18 a woman. It’s hard but why are men men and not boys yet we’re all girls…. Over it
not just a girl i am a fully grown adult with a job and a lease! it’s so self infantilising and i hate it
I saw someone caption a new self-defense weapon with "just girly things" and i wanted to PUKE
the only scene when I accept this phrase is where a boy tells buffy in BTVS “but you are just a girl”, and she IS the teenage girl
Yesss. Like it clearly reflects all of our (across genders) subconscious desire to be less responsible and less adult and littler and cuter in the face of overwhelming ultra-capitalism and war and etc etc. But the extreme marketability and viral-ness of this vein of trend reflects something more sinister i think, much more about the subjugation of women and steps backward in feminism that others are referring to on this thread. And it’s just like cringe and gross, we‘re adults lol. That said I do like eating a random array of little things for dinner sometimes I guess
natalieo exactly what i was thinking, like it was cute and fun initially but all the “girl” stuff as time went on became really explicitly about not only infantilizing us but making us seem really brainless. girl hobbies are shopping and getting a little beverage = women have no substance beyond consumption. like hello???
Women infantilising themselves to avoid taking responsibility for themselves is part of the tradwife to tradcath to hard right pipeline people need to WAKE UP!!!! Choice feminism is a plague. Joan Didion’s essay on The Women’s Movement back in the 70s summed this up so well and it was written 50 years ago!!!! Why are we going in circles
it makes me feel like we are backtracking with feminism lol like ladies i don’t think constantly infantilizing women as a “joke” is actually that harmless….
marxinista I feel like there is extreme backlash to feminism just in general because some women seem to not want to be independent and it makes me so… sad……
marxinista or more like they resent the supposed societal expectation to be independent
taterhole the amount of women i know who are dead serious about just wanting a husband to provide for them & not working.. i dont want to work either but that’s a problem with capitalism not feminism. ur really going to let a man who could switch up on you at any second be responsible for ur shelter, finances, transportation, food, entire life & wellbeing?? it actually upsets me
marxinista there are sooo many little “trends” that make me feel like we’re backtracking with feminism like now its the trad wife glorification its devastating
forevercherry I honestly don’t see as much of a major problem with the trad wife thing SPECIFICALLY through the lens of “it’s nice to care for the people you love by cooking etc” bc for some that really is their love language and to live out your days cooking and cleaning and kind of having a housewife lifestyle might be your dream and like feminism should include space for people who want that but that being said it’s so concerning when it’s like To SERVE men
forevercherry nunjournal and I talked about this on I think the first episode of Gilded. it’s honestly scary I know so many women who say this too. I hate the attitude of well i would rather devote all of my time to my Husband and Children 😍 rather than to a soulless corporation 😝 as if there isn’t work that can be satisfying and meaningful and helpful to society and the only way to find purpose is within the family unit. I think the fact that this is happening is just a scathing indictment of the economy and current state of working conditions in society… and also the deceptive practices of trad wife influencers. I’m expecting more reactionary backlash to a lot of progressive attitudes soon
taterhole YES to all of this!! also they have the opinion that housework / childcare is not labor, which is the opposite of a key argument in 2nd wave feminism so vvv disappointing that so many young women today see that as not-labor/work when it in many ways is ALSO labor. also i’m just like how do so many people not see that the tradwife/”marry rich/don’t work” rhetoric is like toeing the line of handmaid’s tale christian nationalist esque ideology lol
marxinista YES feminized labor is so undervalued and I think they underestimate its difficulty because they don’t see honest portrayals of what it looks like in the media and in many cases probably didn’t see it growing up within their own families.
but you know what having recently ended a friendship with someone who held these views after discovering some things I have to say that I think many of them DO actually know that these are right wing adjacent views and they’re taking great pains to hide it because it’s unpalatable to normal people lol 👀
lmaolson i agree, feminism should definitely have a space for people who like that!! i just get concerned at the idea of women 1. being entirely reliant on men 2. thinking what they need to do with their life is serve men as you said, so i really hate to see the lifestyle glamourized.. esp when the women doing it on social media arent showing how hard it can actually be!!
marxinista omg the housework / childcare not being labor drives me insane.. not only are u undervaluing what women actually do but ur putting the young impressionable women looking up to these tradwives or w/e it is at risk of falling into a trap they won't be able to get out of
I like doing this in vastly inappropriate settings such as being told to do a task at work and my fellow female manager is like oh… well same… but on balance I hate when people genuinely like believe in it
