Rec | THIS YEAR / TURNING 25

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Rec'd on 🐣 when did you realize you were actually getting older?

i honestly haven’t really put real hard thoughts to this but the other night at the porter robinson show, he had this transition where the screen asked questions such as “do you remember what your baby teeth felt like” and “when was the last time you hugged your mom,” and i stood there realizing i don’t really experience nostalgia in that sense, and i don’t really process the passing of time in that sense, but it did make me realize i‘m way, way older now besides the obvious things such as noticing your parents getting older, i think this year i finally felt it for real. whether it‘s younger friends pointing out that i‘m 25 and their tone just sounded like they’re scared of that number (haha), or me catching up with my older friends and they are telling me about their plans and wishes about turning 30 it’s the act of having to be responsible for yourself, really really having to do that this time, and having to plan ahead despite i’ve always just lived life as it stands—and how much i’m struggling to do it. how frustrating it is to face the problems i’ve been running away from and still having no idea how to fix them, but just knowing that i’ll have to, that really feels like growing up anyway this is too long✌🏼

@gomizhou

Sep 13, 2024

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@kevvymetal

I'm turning 28 in December and this is some real shit, especially your last paragraph We only get one life. No one lives your life for you, just as no one dies your death for you. We really have to take ownership, live with intention, make plans, set goals, and hold ourselves accountable. Of course, this is easier said than done. I'm also so used to living life as it stands and taking things day by day. Unfortunately, that results in me putting things off and staying in my comfort zone all the time and it's so arugjasdflsfgjkl Taking the path of least resistance and being in your comfort zone has its time and place for sure, but adopting that as a general approach and taking it too far towards life (at least for me) isn't conducive to really having much of a life at all. I do think though that we have a lot more power than we give ourselves credit for. But we'll never find out if we always avoid and never face Idk I'm just yapping now on a Friday morning but I'm glad I saw this and I appreciate how it made me reflect so thank youuuuu

Sep 13, 2024

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