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Lauren

Lauren is one of those people who we are very lucky to have in this world because if we didn’t, the world would be a lot more miserable and probably not worth living in for long. She is one of the most loving and caring people I have ever met. It’s a privilege to be her friend. Lauren has so many cool skills: she dances, she sings, she cooks, she makes clothes (sometimes for herself, sometimes for her girlfriend and that is very cute), she draws, and she has something interesting to say about any and all media ever produced, popular and/or high-brow. If it exists, she has probably consumed that content. I call her the Fairy Mary of the lesbians because Lauren will always compliment everyone she meets, almost as if she is on a quota, making sure every person feels loved and cherished and worshiped as the sacred beings they are. I imagine her going around the world with a little abacus, like Fairy Mary, making sure all people are well loved and complimented at all points.

@ro

Mar 2, 2024

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Laura my beloved

I met Laura at a queer event in the community and instantly had a crush on her (many such cases; having a crush on Laura is a rite of passage in our friend group). Extremely stylish emo girl with a very gentle and cunty energy to her, amazing sense of humor, carries herself with so much love and so much care. She radiates everywhere she goes. I have a profound admiration for Laura because she’s driven as fuck, extremely resilient and strong, SUPER FUCKING SMART, and takes no bullshit. Laura is strong. Laura is really strong. Passionate STEM baddie, based politics AF, down to anything, LOVES Minecraft, has an excellent music taste that is all-to-vast for me to fully understand, but she’s found her people for that. Also, she has like all these really cute and funny mannerisms that distinguish her a lot. I love her. We have shared some very extremely tender moments together and kept each other sane through some of the hardest moments of our university life. She’s one of thise friends I will always be happy to see no matter how long it’s been. I feel extremely privileged to have her in my life, and if you have a Laura in your life, you should too and you better be loving her properly.

@ro

Mar 3, 2024

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my roommate

she’s not on this app but it feels impossible for me to have a space without her leaving an impression on it, so i’m adding her to my recs myself we met our freshman year of college, started rooming together, and then moved into an apartment together after graduation. she has truly seen me at my absolute best and my absolute worst and she has never once made me doubt how much she continues to care about me through it all. she is one of the smartest people i know. not only intellectually, but also in a wise “i look up to the way she interacts with the world and treats people in it” way. she is hilarious. she is fiercely caring, which is something i eternally admire. her care for me in situations where i show myself no grace and refuse to stand up for myself has taught me so much about my own worth. even if it takes me a long time to realize it. i dread the day i am no longer just steps away from her bedroom door. but i can not wait to see all of the amazing things this life has to offer her. and i hope i get enough chances to earnestly tell her that she is an amazing thing to happen to me.

@paiton

Feb 24, 2025

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Starting over

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.” — Anaïs Nin This is uncharacteristically raw and personal, even for me, and pretty heavy! I know many of you have seen me posting through it and I feel safe to talk about it openly now that I’ve safely landed at the start of my new life. It’s honestly even a little bit embarrassing but I think it’s important to share. I’ve never publicly mentioned it on here, but I have a husband; as of Friday, we’d have been together for 11 years, and we’ve been married for 3 years as of 2/22. I realize now that I wanted to explore what I looked like outside of my relationship with him because I had lost that. This is why PI.FYI has been so meaningful to me as a space to express myself and connect with people—to rediscover my voice. I had been living a lie this entire time, to others but worst of all to myself. He’s been verbally and emotionally abusive, physically but without touching me, to the point that every day I spent with him I was in danger. I’ve been shrinking myself and walking on eggshells to avoid making him insecure and provoking his casual put-downs and fits of rage, while hanging on for dear life to the threads of good I could see. I’ve wanted so badly to leave, more than anything, but I felt like there was no way out and that this was just something I would need to endure indefinitely—but someone who is so very dear to me helped me see that I have wings to fly, not by acting as my savior but by reminding me of my own power. The emotional safety they built and the gentle care they showed me made me feel like I could open up to them. With their encouragement I was brave enough to tell the truth to my friends, my family, my boss, and they have received me with warm, loving and open arms and rallied to support and protect me. The financial and  logistical aspects were the most intimidating to me and it’s going to be tough for a while but I’m going to be better than okay! Now I’m opening up to you. This isn’t the only abuse I’ve suffered in my life, and my old therapist told me she believed it was my mission to share my strength and light with others to inspire them and show them that change is possible. I hope that by sharing this, I can reach even just one person who is going through something similar and show that they are not alone, and they are not weak. People with certain backgrounds may be more vulnerable to abuse, but it can happen to anyone. It thrives in darkness, shame, and isolation—and breaking that silence is the first step toward freedom. Leaving is the scariest thing I have ever done but I have so many angels around me, and I am endlessly grateful. Thank you for being here with me 💌

@taterhole

Mar 16, 2025

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Never changing

My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌

@taterhole

Feb 23, 2025

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Finally Quitting the job that you hate

Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately ✅💅

@taterhole

Feb 27, 2025

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