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Everyone always talks about the sleep braids and the pineapples and the silk scarves and whatever other sleep hairstyles. I’ve tried them all but my favorite so far is French pins because it doesn’t flatten or crush or bend the hair. I read a tip to twist your hair up into a mid to low bun and pin it before bed then take a hot bath or shower so that the steam adds bounce and curl back to the hair and it has been life changing!! I’m sure there are far nicer French hair pins than the Kristin Ess ones but you can in fact buy these at Target and they’re fine
Aug 23, 2024
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satin hair bonnets at night - reducing friction while you sleep minimises so much frizz if you don't already use one i recommend. they're not too expensive I don't think ?!?
shampoo every second wash, co-wash every other wash. I also have a conditioner that i use to wash with, and then a separate leave-in conditioner that has a lighter texture so that my curls don't get weighed down (keeps my hair nice and voluminous). I sometimes dilute my conditioner with water if i feel that it's too heavy.
i also wash my hair very sparingly, only when it gets greasy. this might depend on your hair so probably not super useful, but for me, i find that the longer i am able stretch hair washes the better my hair is for it because my hair tends to be on the dry side and wetting it makes it more brittle and dry and more prone to frizz up. especially when i do shampoo washes, as shampoo completely strips my hair and scalp :(
No heat if you can help it
also this is probably a cringe point to end on but i've found that learning to love the messy nature of my hair has been life changing. figuring out that frizz is not inherently bad has reduced my anxiety around my hair so much and i feel really confident about my hair most days and it's not because i'm using any particularly fancy products. that and i've also found a hair dresser who knows how to cut for my specific hair texture !!!!
Mar 23, 2025
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been doing this for like 3 days and my hair is no longer tangly when i wake up anymore… amazing…
May 9, 2024
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maybe this was the whole point and i just didn’t understand until recently… but if you do your hair curly product routine before bed and wear ur bonnet, ur curls will look phenomenal in the morning… my hair falls between curly and wavy but i always wake up with flat curls i have to fix… UNTIL NOW
Jul 31, 2024
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My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌
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I’ve been thinking about how much of social media is centered around curating our self-image. When selfies first became popular, they were dismissed as vain and vapid—a critique often rooted in misogyny—but now, the way we craft our online selves feels more like creating monuments.
We try to signal our individuality, hoping to be seen and understood, but ironically, I think this widens the gap between how others perceive us and who we really are. Instead of fostering connection, it can invite projection and misinterpretation—preconceived notions, prefab labels, and stereotypes. Worse, individuality has become branded and commodified, reducing our identities to products for others to consume.
On most platforms, validation often comes from how well you can curate and present your image—selfies, aesthetic branding, and lifestyle content tend to dominate. High engagement is tied to visibility, not necessarily depth or substance. But I think spaces like PI.FYI show that there’s another way: where connection is built on shared ideas, tastes, and interests rather than surface-level content. It’s refreshing to be part of a community that values thoughts over optics.
By sharing so few images of myself, I’ve found that it gives others room to focus on my ideas and voice. When I do share an image, it feels intentional—something that contributes to the story I want to tell rather than defining it. Sharing less allows me to express who I am beyond appearance.
For women, especially, sharing less can be a radical act in a world where the default is to objectify ourselves. It resists the pressure to center appearance, focusing instead on what truly matters: our thoughts, voices, and authenticity. I’ve posted a handful of pictures of myself in 2,500 posts because I care more about showing who I am than how I look.
In trying to be seen, are we making it harder for others to truly know us? It’s a question worth considering.
Dec 27, 2024