not in the nakey way (unless it’s that kind of party) but more like just start swaying to the music a bit. Likely, someone will notice and come sway with you.
also: I always go with compliments!! they go a long way, and are actually how I’ve met some cool friends.
it’s tuff tho: ‘just be yourself‘ cos it’s like ? what if …. but the more detached you are with being received in a specific way, the more likely you are to just meet the right people
and sometimes …. it might not be deep or withstanding, but tolerable enough to keep standing next to one another
Jul 20, 2024
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ive met some wonderful people by just showing up to an event of some kind by myself and simply approaching people. a lot of the time you dont even need to approach someone because something happens nearby that you both can bond over. i. e. i met a very kind couple at a concert bc some guy next to me was being weird and rowdy, and they stepped in to shield me! how nice! and we still keep up with eachother.
obviously, you have to keep your wits about you and make sure someone you do know knows where you are, but really what im getting at is this:
simply by being around people, you will meet people. just have fun with it and be bold, and when you DO meet people, you have to keep up the effort in following up a couple times to keep the conversation flowing. 🦋
Feb 2, 2025
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ive been single for 5 years so when i moved, going out alone wasn’t really a new concept it was just the unfamiliar environment that was intimidating. so i just had to get over my fear of the literal unknown.
either way, concerts are the easiest place for me to make new connections cus i like to dance and i mean there’s already a solid topic of conversation to lead with (the artist you r there to see 🌚)
dive bars r easy too, i just have a drink at the bar, talk to whoever’s there, and go wherever the wind takes me.
i also just straight up asked my coworkers if anyone wanted to be friends and /or hangout. sometimes (in seattle at least) u just have to be straightforward
my old roommate liked going to queer nights and that’s how she met a few of her friends
my current roommate is into gaming so he goes to gaming meets & card game battles
and i have another friend who loves skating so she goes to skating events
i guess, meet new people thru ur hobbies 🧘🏽♀️
BUT ALSO
don’t be afraid to ask :)
May 16, 2024
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idk if any of this will be remotely helpful, but this is generally how i see socializing
to find friends:
1. do something consistently
2. do something where other people are also (generally) by themselves
3. do something that requires discussion
exercise classes, coffee shops, open studios, libraries, organizing/protesting/charity work; really to acquire friends you just have to do things that's it. do things you like so you are around people who share similar interests and thus will have a higher "friend hit rate" but really the most essential point on the list is the first one (the other two are nice bonus'). with enough consistency you become noticed and then boom.
on becoming friends:
1. open invites
2. follow ups
now that you've just met some people, get them into your circle by open inviting them to things. if you're going out later that night, offer for them to join. if you're both in a pottery class maybe offer an open invite to a gallery you're visiting. this is how you shift casual acquaintances to actual friends. the important thing is to concretize your plans tho. you're not trying to pressure them but you do want to make them feel like it was more than just a vapid offer, so after you suggest it wait a bit and follow up with details. this also goes for the reverse of being given an open invite.
on being friends:
1. do
the best piece of advice (which might have come from pi.fyi) is that sometimes you just need to be the doer. maybe you see a tiktok about a picnic with friends and you think dang wouldn't it would be cool if my friends did that. well, there's nothing stopping you, you have to be the friend that does stuff. obviously this is a little time consuming and exhausting but generally people want to pay it forward so once you get the ball rolling on the friend group doing stuff, people usually follow suit
also fear is the mind killer, go forth and be
Jan 27, 2025
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I got my nails done and I realized the star on the index finger makes the nails PI themed. Semi unconscious yet a soft-smile realization while the nail tech was painting the star on.
Dec 18, 2024
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Bring back being genuine about your suffering on the internet. was that ever really a thing? is tumblr just a social anecdote to a form of media we thought / wished we had?
*^ little miss avoidant. or maybe indirect? dw folks it was amicable! he has a heart of gold! which makes me even more miserable…
#gointhruthemotions #humanbeingbehaviour
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I was celibi-cied for like 3 years after my situationship became an ‘omfg-you-are-a-serial-cheater-on-your-girlfriend-of-four-years!’ Hella afraid of love, intimacy and everything.
over the past few months, I’ve been casual dating for no other means than finding out what I like and don’t like. I’ve had good and bad sex, been given flowers on the first date and then ghosted, moved to the UK and had my first proper one night stand (every other one was too drunken to remember lol) and am currently on my first bae-cation with a man I am slowly falling in love with.
I promise you, dating for fun rather than for long-term involvement is so much more enriching than you think. As you’re floating around, you learn to decenter men and tolerate their mansplaining a lot less. You find out that no, you do not want to make a sex tape on the first date, and then you’ll slowly trickle in the good stuff. Kind men who just listen to you, and are a little different than the other men you’ve seen. You‘ll learn to love being treated kindly, and cherish that above all else story-watching-liking-no game bs.
It’s sounds sooo irritating to say shit like phhh don’t look for it, it’ll come for you!! But girl as annoying as it is… that is the truth of the matter. I don’t know if this guy is my finish
line, but I did just orgasm like 8 times 🙏🏾 I met on hinge, and lowkey ghosted him intially. give the guy in your dms a chance for real ….
Wishing you and your future lover all the best….
p.s copying the other user by attaching a relevant song 😛
Nov 10, 2024