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I have the worst fear of staying in one place for too long (both literally & metaphorically) but I think whatās even more dangerous than that is the desire to stay in that rut forever even though itās not serving you !! That happens to me because Iām so scared of failing or to be seen trying for something but not reaching it in the end.
I am feeling so inspired after coming home from a concert & I am allowing myself to bask in that sense of renewal !! Like wow itās okay that I want to write again despite not doing so for months now! Itās okay that Iām getting into photography again after not honouring my commitment to practise it in the past few months! I am learning more and more from personal experience + observation that some doors only open at the right time and there are times when the right thing to do is to actively pursue something, while there are times when we have to sit still + wait and see
Jul 17, 2024
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whatever is holding you and feeding you creatively!
I think we have such a different idea now of what careers can look like and weāre no longer held to the ābe at one job for 40 yearsā mentality. Which is equally freeing and terrifying.
But i think you keep feeding that part of yourself until it feels like you shouldnāt move on or feel thereās more to explore in one area. I realize this isnāt an exact rec but im feeling this too and am finding that the reframe is helpful for the freefalling feeling.
Mar 11, 2024
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So much of what I'm proud of has been inner work that isn't always noticeable on the outside. Recently I've been given a beautiful opportunity that brought up a lot of fear in me, which I've been through enough to realize that it was based on past hurt or taking on other people's opinions as a kind of judgemental character in my head. I'm so grateful to have the support of people in my life that helped me talk through what was going on. My husband, one of the best people in the whole world imho, shared with me that developing Self (the true, unique you) is recognizing when fear is just fear, and doing it despite that. Each time we are able to do that, our true self gets stronger and stronger.
Since I worked through that I've had so much more energy in my day to day life. It's like I slowly was becoming buried without even realizing it. I've learned that the goal in growing isn't necessarily to change, but rather to become more and more our true selves. It's a constant process. Barnacles attach, and we work to notice and remove them so we can swim smoothly.
May 27, 2025
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when things are just going so well that you get scared as hell waiting for it all to fall apart. Itās a normal feeling, but a dirty, nasty thief of joy. Donāt let it convince you to borrow grief from the future and ruin the now.
also, I moved a hell of a lot growing up too and I also thought I wanted to root myself in one place forever and ever when I āgrew upā ā it was just an outsized response to the reality of my moment. As an adult, I get itchy when I stay in one place too long and Iām realizing that a substantial part of who I am will always have 1 eye on the horizon. Iām figuring out how to make peace with that now. Iām also leaning into the fact that I am much more comfortable with change than most of my peers! it can be a super power if you let it :)
Dec 29, 2024
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I think 10 year old addy wouldāve passed out if sheād known that she would come to own this in 13 yearsā¦you can take the girl out of bikini bottom but you canāt take bikini bottom out of the girl
Apr 23, 2025
i know it sounds so clichĆ© but i work for a climate organisation & i just came home from a work event so iām feeling very inspired/energised/refreshedā¦please find your community because it is tiring, draining, & almost impossible to drive social change alone. you donāt have to do it alone.
A community helps your cause. We protest, meet, rally, & cry in numbers for this reason. š
Jun 29, 2024
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i really also think about how much boys are taught ways to perform masculinity & how it is legitimised through tangible things like building a career etc but with women i find that from a young age our identity, behaviours, & thoughts are always spoken about in relation to other people/things ā gender roles within the family, how weāre perceived by men, our friendships with other women, our relationships with material things etc etc ā and this shows up in the labels that women are often given too! so and so is someoneās daughter, girlfriend, wife, mother etc etc. i envy the freedom of boyhood so much, the freedom to just be (this is not to discount the toxicity of traditional masculinity, i just think that boys are still afforded more āplayā and therefore have more opportunities to develop their sense of self).
maybe i am also biased because of how iāve grown up & whatnot but i never really understood what it meant to quote unquote be a woman or perform femininity. i only saw this modelled within my nurturing friendships with women as iāve gotten older but when i was younger, in church it was always āok well donāt do this or that because x y z will happen to men if you doā or within my extended family it was often āare you seeing anyone? when are you having kidsā. damn what happened to asking about how iām doing or what my dreams are!!!
long rant sorry !! but thatās my long winded way of saying āi feel youā haha
Jun 28, 2024