Here’s what I mean:
Surround yourself with people that love you. Tell them you need the extra loving. Treat yourself as you would a friend. Mother yourself as you would a child. Eat nourishing food, get your body moving, get outside. Pick yourself flowers, treat yourself to a gift. You experienced a betrayal and I do think you may need support working through that, right now it sounds like you need a lot of tenderness. When you find your mind thinking about it, say “not today!!!” They don’t deserve any more of your time or energy. DELETE THOSE MESSAGES!
We’re not going to be for everyone, and you were treated very unfairly. That’s a reflection of them, not you. Kind people don’t act like that, even when they don’t like someone.
Sometimes in life we don’t have the support system we need, and that’s the time to learn how to be that for yourself. No matter what happens in life, YOU’VE got you, and that’s an empowering thing.
Jul 9, 2024
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I like to remember that time is on your side, it will get easier as time goes by just for nature of it. So focusing on going through the day-to-day the best you can while being kind to yourself and letting the days past is what helped me.
It’s not easy, you have to go through the grief to come up on the other side.
But stick with the things that make your present more bearable and you WILL come up on the other side.
For me it was doing things for myself: listening to music, visiting close friends, cooking for myself, going on walks on nature, spending time alone and bored and finding new things I liked and enjoying my own company was life changing.
The loneliness is rough but it can be a great teacher (at least I like to think something had to come out of all that pain).
I guess it really depends on the break up the narratives you are telling yourself right now, but if you can be mindful about them, observe them, and let go of trying to understand and control everything they get less cruel. Right now you just need to survive and receive some kindness, later on you can build the story around it (Without the fog of the pain around it).
And for the love of god cut contact with them, their family and friends, at least for a while. rebuild yourself outside their zone of influence. Show vulnerability if you can, it can bring great support and lending ears, BE KIND TO YOURSELF (although have in mind sometimes over indulgence is not kind).
You will get through it, time is on your side.
Apr 18, 2024
Firstly, big warm virtual hug. Close your eyes and feel it 🫂
The book I’m recommending was such a comfort for me in a hard time, and I hope it is for you too.
I don’t want to move too far into Therapy speak but I have to make very clear to you, somebody telling you that you will never be loved is an abusive statement. That is like a curse being placed upon you. That seed is planted in your heart and everything gets filtered through it. And it’s not TRUE! IT’S NOT TRUE!!! IT’S NOT TRUE!!! You need to deal with that. And you will. I believe in you.
Nov 4, 2024
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Feel your feelings without judgment. Spend as much time with people who love you as possible. Make a list of things that bring you happiness/peace/comfort and try to do them.
Above all, be exceptionally kind, gentle, and compassionate with yourself. Remember that you won’t feel this way forever. There is a beautiful future ahead. You’re on your way 🫡
Oct 6, 2024
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FINDING SOMEONE ANNOYING AND IMMEDIATELY REALIZING IT’S BECAUSE THEY REMIND YOU OF YOUR YOUNGER SELF
OH BROTHER THIS GUY actually needs a lot of empathy and understanding
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