I can set boundaries with friends and say things bluntly without feeling bad. The constant pressure I put myself under in order to protect the feelings of others is unnecessary. I can't control them so why am I letting them control me? I can stand to be a bit meaner and to the point. I don't have to try to please every person I want to be closer to.
Jun 22, 2024
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if youβre person with anxiety like me or a person who experiences misogyny (also me) then chances are you could always get a little meaner when it comes to asking acceptable behaviour of others. looking back on times when, in the moment, i was worried that i was being too harsh by telling people how they can treat me, retrospectively i have almost never ever in my life felt i did the wrong thing. realizing this has made standing up for myself 10x easier every time i find myself needing to. showing others grace is not incompatible with showing up for yourself, in fact, one necessitates the other!
Mar 14, 2024
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I know this app is mainly about positivity and this sounds on the surface negative, but it really needs to be said/I need to remind myself of this... precisely because it leads to goodness i.e. following my actual intentions/desires/wants in who I want around me. not gonna pander and cater and mask anymore, its exhausting. adapting to groups is a good skill, but subduing oneself is not one I wanna spend time on
Apr 3, 2024
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There are some things going on with my family that are going to require me to have some difficult conversations. I have reflexively avoided such confrontation in the past and have instead tried to keep the peace and be a people pleaser, but I know facing the music and discussing it will make my life better and my family life better. In evolving into more self-respect I feel like it has also given me more courage overall, because it often goes hand in hand with confidence. And I am confident that I mean well and come from a place of love and understanding, so it makes it all the less scary to take on conflict. I feel really happy to have this security in myself in order to try to make the lives of my loved ones around me better.
Apr 2, 2025
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People in your life who don't pressure you to text or call them all that often and vice verse. Such a relief through the web of constant pressure I feel to keep up with people due to social media. Like nah it's cool if you don't text me that same day, we got lives to live buddy, I'll see ya when I see ya.
Jun 10, 2024
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Although not horror in it's traditional sense, the dystopic and serious nature of the rules set in this black comedy movie are beyond horrific. I haven't been able to stop thinking about it since I saw it a couple of weeks ago. It's an insane watch.
Jun 5, 2024
(me screaming this heaven sent song at the top of my lungs)
"And I'd give up forever to touch you'
Cause I know that you feel me somehow
You're the closest to heaven that I'll ever be
And I don't wanna go home right now"
Jun 18, 2024