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I can set boundaries with friends and say things bluntly without feeling bad. The constant pressure I put myself under in order to protect the feelings of others is unnecessary. I can't control them so why am I letting them control me? I can stand to be a bit meaner and to the point. I don't have to try to please every person I want to be closer to.
Jun 22, 2024
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🔨if you’re person with anxiety like me or a person who experiences misogyny (also me) then chances are you could always get a little meaner when it comes to asking acceptable behaviour of others. looking back on times when, in the moment, i was worried that i was being too harsh by telling people how they can treat me, retrospectively i have almost never ever in my life felt i did the wrong thing. realizing this has made standing up for myself 10x easier every time i find myself needing to. showing others grace is not incompatible with showing up for yourself, in fact, one necessitates the other!
Mar 14, 2024
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🗣I used to be very conflict avoidant as a young pup but as an old dog, I’ve embraced the conflict that arises when you need to let a mf know who you are! Part of being boundaried is enforcing those boundaries if they’ve been crossed and that means sticking up for yourself. You gotta let people know when they ought to do better by you, or politely let them know when they got you fucked up, because only then can you re-establish the terms of engagement so you are respected, treated with the kindness and consideration you deserve. If the person is mature enough to be accountable, then they will respond in a reasonable manner to your reasonable request. If the person crashes out, then they are an unreasonable human who doesn’t deserve to have your time or space! You deserve the world — show yourself that by picking you first!!!
Jul 14, 2025
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🔧I know this app is mainly about positivity and this sounds on the surface negative, but it really needs to be said/I need to remind myself of this... precisely because it leads to goodness i.e. following my actual intentions/desires/wants in who I want around me. not gonna pander and cater and mask anymore, its exhausting. adapting to groups is a good skill, but subduing oneself is not one I wanna spend time on
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💆People in your life who don't pressure you to text or call them all that often and vice verse. Such a relief through the web of constant pressure I feel to keep up with people due to social media. Like nah it's cool if you don't text me that same day, we got lives to live buddy, I'll see ya when I see ya.
Jun 10, 2024
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🦞Although not horror in it's traditional sense, the dystopic and serious nature of the rules set in this black comedy movie are beyond horrific. I haven't been able to stop thinking about it since I saw it a couple of weeks ago. It's an insane watch.
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