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Rec'd on 🏆 what is the opposite of perfectionism?

Perfectionism is rooted in an irrational desire to exert control in order to achieve a specific outcome. It often also comes from a critical self that has internalized the message that one has to be perfect to be worth loving rather than being able to trust that people who love you will love you unconditionally despite or even because of your imperfections…

@taterhole

Jun 18, 2024

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@hollycookswithfriends

how do I learn this :/

Jun 20, 2024

@taterhole

hollycookswithfriends I think ingratiating yourself more fully into a community and developing a feeling of social safety is the move. There’s a newer form of therapy called radically open behavioral therapy that is supposed to be really helpful with disorders of over control

Jun 20, 2024

@mossyelfie

I read my kids these books about emotions, they all have mantras at the end. the perfectionism one is “I don’t have to be perfect, I can just be. I am loved and enough by just being me.” Good reminder for the kid in us all 💗

Jun 18, 2024

@taterhole

mossyelfie 🥹❤️ that’s so beautiful…

Jun 20, 2024

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