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And if they don’t like it there’s the door 🚪👋😔
Jun 11, 2024
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Years ago, if a friend of mine was experiencing trouble at work or school or with their partner/other friends and asked me for advice or vented, I would very easily default to “quit!” or “drop out“ or “dump their ass you deserve better king/queen/my liege”
And as a result, no one improved, in fact we backslid into becoming reactive or destructive and eventually, bore no patience with one another because there was no good ground to stand on
Life has gotten better since I and others stopped abandoning ship at any sign of discomfort.
Don’t let your friends destroy their lives because you give them a stamp of approval!
Apr 22, 2024
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Feeling wronged by a former lover? Tell them, then just let that shit go.
Friend made a flippant comment that upset you. Just tell them and move on with the friendship instead of letting things build.
Hold people to a higher standard. As long as you’re not hurting anyones feelings.
Mar 13, 2024
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Don’t let anybody dictate who you’re friends with. If they don’t like a friend of yours, that’s fine but if they start pushing for you to unfriend them…(run away).
Jan 24, 2024
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My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌
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I’ve been thinking about how much of social media is centered around curating our self-image. When selfies first became popular, they were dismissed as vain and vapid—a critique often rooted in misogyny—but now, the way we craft our online selves feels more like creating monuments.
We try to signal our individuality, hoping to be seen and understood, but ironically, I think this widens the gap between how others perceive us and who we really are. Instead of fostering connection, it can invite projection and misinterpretation—preconceived notions, prefab labels, and stereotypes. Worse, individuality has become branded and commodified, reducing our identities to products for others to consume.
On most platforms, validation often comes from how well you can curate and present your image—selfies, aesthetic branding, and lifestyle content tend to dominate. High engagement is tied to visibility, not necessarily depth or substance. But I think spaces like PI.FYI show that there’s another way: where connection is built on shared ideas, tastes, and interests rather than surface-level content. It’s refreshing to be part of a community that values thoughts over optics.
By sharing so few images of myself, I’ve found that it gives others room to focus on my ideas and voice. When I do share an image, it feels intentional—something that contributes to the story I want to tell rather than defining it. Sharing less allows me to express who I am beyond appearance.
For women, especially, sharing less can be a radical act in a world where the default is to objectify ourselves. It resists the pressure to center appearance, focusing instead on what truly matters: our thoughts, voices, and authenticity. I’ve posted a handful of pictures of myself in 2,500 posts because I care more about showing who I am than how I look.
In trying to be seen, are we making it harder for others to truly know us? It’s a question worth considering.
Dec 27, 2024