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A Case of Arrested Development?

First of all, this is definitely normal and you’re absolutely not alone in it. But I think you may be ascribing self-actualization and self-assuredness to those a few years younger than you a little too hastily. People who had their middle-school years disrupted by the pandemic also dealt with/continue to deal with the effects of missing out on formative social and personal development, all the while with less developed brains! Not to mention the people you’re seeing are the ones out at shows, not the ones staying home with social anxiety or panic attacks. So although it may seem from your observation that people in this age range are doing just great, it sounds like you’re comparing yourself to a skewed group through an internalized lens of cultural bias towards youth – quite a combo. And that’s just not being fair to yourself. The fact that you are getting back out there is big and needs to be acknowledged. Instead, you’re positively projecting and amplifying, i.e., seeing in them what you are having trouble finding in yourself. But it is in there – the proof is that you’re showing up. Same thing for self-expression – have you seen your own pfp? You seem cool af! Because of the pandemic, you’ve had a unique and unfortunate generational experience of this “arrested development”, but this also creates an opportunity to further the paradigm shift that royallmonarch focused on in his lovely essay. Societal expectations based around age are out; living your life on your own timeline is in. Life happens; shit happens. But you’re getting through it and you’re doing great. Youth/very young adults who make their youth their personality are actually boring people. Adults who pine about their younger days are also boring. Don’t be either! And if it makes you feel any better, I was at my peak “reckless” right at your age; I got a “late” start. You have so much time to keep doing fun stuff and most importantly, to figure out what you like and don’t like. I’m in my 30s and I’m going to a friend’s rave tomorrow. Ok, it’s a well-organized, well-curated event and not some shit-show in the bush, but still. It’s not over for me! Another night, I’ll stay home and pet my cats. Either way, I’m doing whatever the fuck I want. People take up painting or whatever in their 80s. The sooner you get on that vibe, the better. Ok go have fun!

@solomonki

Jul 11, 2024

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have fun, or go find it

I’m about to turn 30 and idk if my 21 year old self would approve of where I’m at—but my 6 year old self sure as hell would!! I think a lot of life is finding your way back to Little You. Being 21 is so so hard, and in college you’re first starting to see that you can’t judge your progress based on other people. Even though that’s how you were taught to judge yourself up until this point. The things you want now probably won’t matter to you in a few years, and for me that would have sounded terrifying at 21. But that doesn’t mean the things you want now aren’t important. You can think of it in terms of tattoos. If you get a tattoo at 16 it’s not because you know it will represent you always and forever—it’s to commemorate a moment, a feeling of boldness you wanted to wear proudly. And down the line you don’t look at it with regret, but a softness for that younger part of you. Feel your feelings fully in this moment! Be bold with what you care about! Every age is special. Practical advice: Try to listen to your body and not your head. Do I actually like how I feel spending time with this person? Am I going through the motions of this hobby because I think it will service something else? Does xyz come naturally to me, or does it feel forced? No action needed. This exercise isn’t about flipping your life upside down, just take notice of how your body feels in certain situations. Start to notice when you’re in fight or flight versus happy and free. Find the ease and follow it

@babyoblivi0n

Jan 25, 2025

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it‘s a relief

Congrats on making it thru your 20s. I used to be really anxious about turning 30 but I think that’s because people around our age are using the milestones of yesteryear (having a house, family, etc.) to measure our sense of self worth. I’ve come to accept that placing any expectations on where you Should Be or what you Should Have by a certain age is an unreasonable and frustrating way to live life. the older you get the easier it is to to radically accept where ur at in life. I’ve since turned 31 which I think is an even funnier age and I feel like I’m more relaxed and at peace with myself then ever. I don’t really feel confused or like there is anything I need to “figure out,” which is how I and probably how most people feel in their 20s. i have perspective on life that feels earned thru personal experience and that isn‘t derived from cultural/intellectual consumption. Also I think it’s important and liberating to lean in to being “old” and “washed” and out of touch. You’re free! Let the kids buy JNCOs. Enjoy yourself. life is short.

@propanecowboy

Jan 8, 2025

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Do not buy bread and butter pickles if youve never had them

… honestly just not it. I didn’t buy them but I knew something was up when my brother pawned a large jar of them onto me suddenly.. asking “do you like pickles?” of course I do what kind of question is that.. I now understand there are pickles that I dont like.

@internetgod

Jun 6, 2024

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MTV's Downtown

Its free and avaliable on YouTube! one of my favorite cartoons that ive ever seen.

@internetgod

May 29, 2024

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Finding New Samples

i found two of them randomly listening to genres of music and artists i normally wouldnt be listening to right now :)

@internetgod

May 2, 2024