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get the fuck over it
My therapist is not a tough love kinda therapist. And I've maybe heard him curse three times. But we had been talking about the same issue for a while and I was trying not to ruminate, but I was also analyzing and pathologizing over and over. And finally he just said, sometimes you have to get the fuck over it. And it allowed me to imagine a life beyond the past, to not let the past define you. It's easier said than done to just flip a switch and actively choose a better way. To stop it from taking up so much space in your head. But sometimes you truly need to flip that switch and get over it.
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@Shadowbeni
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@elipips
Love this school of thought!
May 30, 2024
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@rizkillla
I feel this deeply. working through my own past right now and Iā€™m reaching that point where Iā€™m just ruminating too much. I canā€™t live in these past wounds anymore and am learning to release them from my body. Iā€™ll get there eventually
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@Shadowbeni
rizkillla you will! it definitely takes time but sometimes you just need a little reminder that you've rehashed enough
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@thewarblerette
EXACTLY!! There are issues that I can talk about with my therapist over and over again but sometimes I just have to wait for the situation to pass and move on Even tho I'm not paying for my sessions, I wanna talk about other shit I have on my mind
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