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It’s hard to make new friends as an adult and I partly wonder if it’s because of how pure and genuine our childhood friendships are by comparison.
One of my best friends is a girl I met in sixth grade. Is so interesting the ways in which we’ve both changed and, more so, all the ways we are entirely the same people we were as adolescents.
May 20, 2024
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the clarity and bravery that adulthood provides, in tandem with the urge to make the most of the little time you get to intimately connect with the folks who mean the most to you: these drive you to dig deeper in the single afternoon you have to catch up, talking uninterrupted for 5 whole hours.
even going on 20 years of friendship, there is still more to learn about each other. makes sense, as you’ve spent so much time in self-examination. but now is the time to share, and presenting for show and tell are their fears and yours, hesitations and hinderances and fumbles and mistakes. each time you meet, you begin to know each other anew. here, vulnerability is safe and matter-of-fact.
you speak on the knowledge you‘ve gained by suffering through experiences that they haven’t had, and between you is an easy and frank intimacy interspersed with laughter and silly noises. you’re not sure who else you could ever have this kind of conversation with. the love between friends feels honest and special, as enduring as with family. when you slowly start to shift their mindset by sharing what you’ve learned from years of struggling, from pain that seemed pointless, crushing, isolating, you start to feel that maybe there was point to it after all.
most people are exhausting but you spring away to catch the C train feeling renewed, and maybe a little wise. you are no longer children together, and that‘s okay because now you revel in your shared adulthood, in your parallels and your growth
Jan 28, 2024
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i know they can understand me on a different level & it makes them so much more approachable. if we share developmental lore i can feel way more comfortable with them. sometimes you just know that you would have been great friends with someone if you'd both met earlier in your timelines, and that endears me to someone a lot.
Jul 11, 2024
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My current best friend and I have known each other for almost 10 years now, and we got along from the very first moment we met (she even made me a drawing that day, which I really appreciated).
But we also had other friends we were closer to—until one day, one of my best friends at the time started being homeschooled. We kind of grew apart, since she lives a few hours away and we couldn’t really stay in touch because of our schedules.
Then my other best friend moved to the United States. So, I started spending more time with my now-best friend, and I love how we make each other laugh like total idiots.
May 13, 2025
