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last year for lent, me and two pals decided to send each other daily emails. we kept up with it for like 2 months and then got busy and it got sporadic but as of today i have come out of email retirement and we are So Back!!! there is absolutely no dopamine hit from social media that can compare to the excitement felt upon seeing a piping hot, fresh email from a loved friend at the top of your inbox. and writing your own emails? impeccable. like morning pages but on the other end is someone who loves you and who has their own lovely pages to share. itâs such a gorgeous way to find a little time for intentional reflection each day, and to deepen your bond with yourself and some precious people.
May 19, 2024
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No more texting! No more IG reels or TikTokâs! Send your friends long-winded emails once or twice a week with links to interesting / funny things you found online that week. Send them what youâre listening to. Send them meandering thoughts on whatever you want! Itâs so nice to get one of these and know the other person put so much care and effort into it.
(See also: letters)
Feb 21, 2024
Jan 25, 2024
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I think we tend to romanticize letters a lot, and for good reason, but this often comes at the expense of devaluating emails so I just wanted to share my love for emailing.
I send a lot of emails at work and I tend to enjoy it. I like how ridiculous office lingo is, I like designing my special signature at the end of my emails because it makes me feel creative and important. I like sending a long and thoughtful email to my friends or my professors in university, like you would do with a letter but without having to pay for stamps, wait forever for it to arrive, or having to worry if it will get lost.
I also like that itâs not as instantaneous as texting, but just enough for it to feel timely. Also because itâs not suuuper instantaneous, it kinda feels more intimate, or like a rare pleasure.
I like sending emails to my friends. Email pen-palls rock. Send more thoughtful emails :)
May 1, 2024
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felt the same way, was sick of it. got a flip phone i could slip my sim card into, activated it. first two weeks i was kind of itching for the smartphone and the little dopamine hits. after a while things started changing. i started reading for fun again, my attention span improved significantly, i carried a little journal everywhere to jot down my thoughts. in every room where everyone was on their phones, i felt like i was the only person actually present, paying attention. i found so many beautiful ways to fill the time. strangers praised me for my bravery lol. when i had to drive or go somewhere i didnât know how to get to i would write down the directions on a post it note and carry it or stick it to the dashboard. you will literally feel smarter for relying on your brain to figure things like this out instead of being on autopilot all the time. you can carry your smartphone around to use as an ipod/pocket camera and in an emergency it will still work on wifi. i asked friends to look things up for me (business hours, weather, traffic, phone numbers) when i was out and about. if people texted me id tell them to call me if they wanted to talk. it was a great decision that only ended bc i did an extended trip abroad where i needed my phone to get by, but i am going to go back to the flip again soon. i highly recommend! nothing compares to flipping a phone shut to hang up a call. it taught me how to enjoy true solitude again. do it!!!
Feb 27, 2024
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after being raised in a context where you were taught to be hard on yourself, leaning into self-compassion as a way of life in adulthood is truly powerful. hold yourself accountable and give yourself grace when you flounder, both are needed.
Mar 3, 2024
âwow i am in so much pain, i feel so ALIVEâ
âi am grateful to know that i have loved, truly lovedâ
âmay i never grow too guarded to feel into the depths of my soulâ
âall my favorite artists have felt this feeling, i am bound by heartbreak to my fellow humansâ
âthis grief is a process of me returning to myselfâ
if all else fails, watch the clip from call me by your name where the dad talks to his son about heartbreak (linked)
keep a journal, be patient, show yourself as much compassion as you possibly can
Mar 16, 2024