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Saying no
Ok there has been a lot of saying yes content on here which I agree with and re-rec’d, but I want to acknowledge the power of declining the invite. I have a tendency to burn the candle on both ends and I have recently crashed, causing me to miss things I was looking forward to, which is a huge bummer.
Even if you don’t burn out and get sick, you’re probably exhausted and not showing up as a person ready to engage and fully enjoy your time. So yes, say yes, show up, but also keep that batt above 40% and protect your health. Listen to Your Body.
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@Shadowbeni
May 9, 2024
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@turkeyhouse
Most advice sucks as a one-size-fits-all solution. It all depends on your situation. Someone who can't get out of their shell absolutely should say yes to more things. After you get a few reps, you realize situations aren't as scary as you make them out to be. But if you're burned out, absolutely learn how to say no. You gotta know yourself and your situation before you can decide which path to take.
May 10, 2024
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@mintgawd
based and honest.
May 10, 2024
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@hotnoodle
i need to hear this every day
May 9, 2024
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@Shadowbeni
AND -- if you say no multiple times, sure, there's a chance you won't get the invite next time. but! you can initiate the next hang! if you want. and if you don't, maybe it just ran its course which is also fine
May 9, 2024
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@marianoleonczik
100%. I think both saying yes / no are case-by-case, not inclusive to everything. Finding the balance is keyyyyyyy, even if it does mean a little FOMO here and there.
May 9, 2024
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@Shadowbeni
marianoleonczik absolutely. trying my best to replace FOMO with YREWYN2B (you are exactly where you need to be)
May 9, 2024
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@marianoleonczik
Shadowbeni about to tattoo that on myself
May 9, 2024
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@tiff
hope you feel better soon!
May 9, 2024
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@Shadowbeni
tiff thank you! already on the mend and excited to check out this whole "8 hours of sleep a night" thing!
May 9, 2024
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@nicky999doors
real asf!!!!!!
May 9, 2024
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@Shadowbeni
nicky999doors body was like, have a seat babe
May 9, 2024
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@nicky999doors
Shadowbeni lmfao i am also guilty of the burning of both ends. pls relax sweet shadowbeni
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nicky999doors 🫶
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