idk... i mean if you guys end up missing each other and wanting to try to make it work, you will. taking some time apart so that you can both consider your lives without each other is not a bad thing, but if you get to the point you'd rather be with than without.... make it work.... people are like "dont move for a man" or woman or what have you but i personally believe in love.......
see clip attached. "perfect" and "so in love" doesnt come around every day....
May 6, 2024
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My girl and I dated for a year, broke up and she moved across the country with another guy for two years. Didnāt talk at all in those two years. She moved back and our āone timeā hook up turned into a 6 year relationship. So idk I feel like itās cool if yāall know yāall love each other enough. Just have to make sure itās worth it, you know? Iām old though and I believe in all that mushy romantic shit so eh.
Mar 9, 2025
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Thereās no rushing the healing process, but it may be tempting to maintain some kind of relationship because you care about this person. That can be hard and prolong the healing process, but try and move on and focus on what you think you do want š«” you got this
Mar 24, 2025
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had times where me and the other person werenāt really in each otherās lives before dating so there wasnāt an existing shared community or anything to keep us in proximity to each other. kinda just follow those folks lightly on socials now but donāt really keep in touch. net zero not the worst.
had one time where the romantic relationship really didnāt work out, just lack of compatibility and not being what the other person needed, but the emotional connection and proximity/availability kept us both coming back to each other to maintain the relationship platonically. kind of resulted in a messy situation where boundaries were unclear and that just lead to more hurt and confusion than had we dealt with being apart and feeling alone in the moment and then come back together as friends after letting time pass. ultimately ended up cutting that person out of my life entirely after moving away and realizing in retrospect that I had allowed this person to violate a lot of my personal boundaries for the sake of feeling like I had someone I could confide in, and that they were taking advantage of me being a pushover to feel wanted/not alone.
all this to say, ask yourself: what is it that this person brings to your life outside of what comes exclusively from the romantic aspect of the relationship? if this person was simply available to you to spend time together, seek company from existing friends, or find a new community to be a part of. if this person was a close confidant and understood you in a way you felt seen by, maybe practice more vulnerability with your current friends/family/whoever and ask yourself what it is that makes you feel seen/appreciated in those relationships? seek that out! in the immediate aftermath of a breakup, itās going to seem like there is no one else that can take the space that person is leaving. but that doesnāt have to be the case, and investing in the non-romantic relationships you already have can address the valid needs that you have and strengthen your existing connections. romantic love is important, but other forms of love are just as fulfilling and crucial to your thriving! maybe with time you will come to notice that this person had something you value nonromantically and hopefully yāall can find a new place for each other in your lives, and that can be very rewarding! or maybe you will realize this person met certain unaddressed needs in the moment that you can find in other relationships. donāt feel the need to keep em around if thatās the case.
Mar 12, 2024
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