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Unfortunately not joking. It wasnât a good relationship but hey, he had good taste!
(I cannot recommend this method, but would encourage folks to try Music League with friends)
(I cannot recommend this method, but would encourage folks to try Music League with friends)
Apr 25, 2024
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đmost of these arenât really silly and instead me just crashing out over a crush đ
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-gaslight. gatekeep. your own interests but infringe on other peopleâs
-my ponytail looks like a skate park!
-call me an oven the way he doesnât know how to turn me on
-if youâre gonna text me, use a million exclamation points so i know youâre not mad at me
-when in doubt, blame men
-*aggressively adds artistsâ entire discography to queue*
-why are all bass players just incredibly attractive
-this mans is going to like my story but not reply to my text. ok.
-very offended when my airpods die on me lmao
-âi donât want to tell him cuz it might ruin our friendshipâ the friendship was ruined the moment you caught feelings!
-every notification i hope is a text from you. but it never is.
-i donât know the difference between âtheirâ âthereâ and âtheyâreâ apparentlyâŠ
-did he actually mean what he said�
-absolutely bawling my eyes out over moving on while âRunawayâ by Bruno Mars plays is actually the funniest thing ever
-âshe was whatserface in thingamadoodleâ yup đÂ
-itâs over! itâs finally over!!!
-gaslight. gatekeep. your own interests but infringe on other peopleâs
-my ponytail looks like a skate park!
-call me an oven the way he doesnât know how to turn me on
-if youâre gonna text me, use a million exclamation points so i know youâre not mad at me
-when in doubt, blame men
-*aggressively adds artistsâ entire discography to queue*
-why are all bass players just incredibly attractive
-this mans is going to like my story but not reply to my text. ok.
-very offended when my airpods die on me lmao
-âi donât want to tell him cuz it might ruin our friendshipâ the friendship was ruined the moment you caught feelings!
-every notification i hope is a text from you. but it never is.
-i donât know the difference between âtheirâ âthereâ and âtheyâreâ apparentlyâŠ
-did he actually mean what he said�
-absolutely bawling my eyes out over moving on while âRunawayâ by Bruno Mars plays is actually the funniest thing ever
-âshe was whatserface in thingamadoodleâ yup đÂ
-itâs over! itâs finally over!!!
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đžI first became friends with my soon-to-be current bf because he liked my def leppard shirt. He asked if I liked classic rock, and I said yes, I've been listening to it my whole life (I was raised on classical music and whatever was on pop radio at the time). Of course he played along, but eventually admitted to knowing the whole time I was lying, and now we have a wonderful almost 6-year relationship in the books. Thanks to both of our passions for music (and my desire to learn and get closer to him), are some of the biggest rock fans you'll ever meet. Our love language is sharing new music with each other and now this is just a funny story we tell people :)
Jul 8, 2024
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a couple weeks ago, i bumped into a friend that i say hi to every now and then, but donât know much about. iâve always thought heâs cute. we were both walking to the library to study, so we were talking and getting to know each other. i mentioned that i want to live back at home after i graduate uni because i would miss my dog (and parents) too much. then i showed him my lock screen of my dog. this song was playing (important!) and he stared at the screen for awhile and i thought that was strange because it wasnât hard to see the pic of my dog. my delulu self thought he was trying to read the song name to listen to it later.
we ended up spending the rest of the day together, studying, trying to get to know each other while flirting, and then got taco bell for dinner (literally a date yk). he also paid for my drink at our campus cafeđ„č
2 weeks ago, we were studying together again and i asked if he had spotify. he said yes, and i said that we should make a shared playlist that blends our music (i listen to it every day). the other day this song showed up and on the side it had both of our profiles⊠basically we both had listened to it, and itâs SO CUTE because he is so observant and makes an effort to get to know me. and no i donât think he alr knew who caroline polachek is based on what he listen to. anyway i really really like him and this might be the start of a love story pls wish me luckđ€đ»
we ended up spending the rest of the day together, studying, trying to get to know each other while flirting, and then got taco bell for dinner (literally a date yk). he also paid for my drink at our campus cafeđ„č
2 weeks ago, we were studying together again and i asked if he had spotify. he said yes, and i said that we should make a shared playlist that blends our music (i listen to it every day). the other day this song showed up and on the side it had both of our profiles⊠basically we both had listened to it, and itâs SO CUTE because he is so observant and makes an effort to get to know me. and no i donât think he alr knew who caroline polachek is based on what he listen to. anyway i really really like him and this might be the start of a love story pls wish me luckđ€đ»
Dec 7, 2024
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From the Atlantic: âThere is no statistical record of any other period in U.S. history when people have spent more time on their own.â
I donât know anything about youâhow funny is that? I couldnât even begin to guess what your life looks like. I couldnât spot you in a crowd. If I were a friend, Iâm sure I could give better advice. Perhaps suggest joining a local group  I know of, or a class at the gym that always puts me in a good mood. Perhaps introduce you to someone Iâve always thought youâd get along with.Â
The beautiful thing about the internet is that you can ask this question to the void and the void speaks back. Itâs so much easier this way, but so much worse.Â
Geography, family, shared interests, shared labor. Community used to be inescapable. We still depend on each other for everything, but we do it all at a distance. Iâll chat for an hour with a friend across the country, but I know nothing about the people across the street. Itâs a selling point if the grocer can name the farmer who grew your food. I could have been writing this to send to a distant family member, who I want to reconnect with, or an old friendâinstead Iâm writing to you, a stranger. Itâs easier. Our community ties have been broken.Â
So: what do you, an individual, do? You may find more success if you develop individual friendships tied to a placeâseveral articles about the loneliness epidemic talk about the gymâor a group that meets regularly. Apparently, the best way to beak down peoplesâ walls is just to see them constantly. This is true for new friends and for deepening relationships. For those friends and acquaintances youâd like to be closer to, keep inviting them to shit. Set your boundaries, but keep trying. The thing about people is that everybody is interesting and confusing and stupid and wise and mean and wonderfulâbut itâs safer to spill all that on the internet, where no one can spot you in a crowd. Let people know that youâre around and interested no matter what, and see what happens. It will take a long time, but itâll be worth it. Not just for you, but for them. For everyone, if we all put the effort in.Â
Iâm sorryâit shouldnât be this way. But we have to try. Weâre all counting on each other <3
I donât know anything about youâhow funny is that? I couldnât even begin to guess what your life looks like. I couldnât spot you in a crowd. If I were a friend, Iâm sure I could give better advice. Perhaps suggest joining a local group  I know of, or a class at the gym that always puts me in a good mood. Perhaps introduce you to someone Iâve always thought youâd get along with.Â
The beautiful thing about the internet is that you can ask this question to the void and the void speaks back. Itâs so much easier this way, but so much worse.Â
Geography, family, shared interests, shared labor. Community used to be inescapable. We still depend on each other for everything, but we do it all at a distance. Iâll chat for an hour with a friend across the country, but I know nothing about the people across the street. Itâs a selling point if the grocer can name the farmer who grew your food. I could have been writing this to send to a distant family member, who I want to reconnect with, or an old friendâinstead Iâm writing to you, a stranger. Itâs easier. Our community ties have been broken.Â
So: what do you, an individual, do? You may find more success if you develop individual friendships tied to a placeâseveral articles about the loneliness epidemic talk about the gymâor a group that meets regularly. Apparently, the best way to beak down peoplesâ walls is just to see them constantly. This is true for new friends and for deepening relationships. For those friends and acquaintances youâd like to be closer to, keep inviting them to shit. Set your boundaries, but keep trying. The thing about people is that everybody is interesting and confusing and stupid and wise and mean and wonderfulâbut itâs safer to spill all that on the internet, where no one can spot you in a crowd. Let people know that youâre around and interested no matter what, and see what happens. It will take a long time, but itâll be worth it. Not just for you, but for them. For everyone, if we all put the effort in.Â
Iâm sorryâit shouldnât be this way. But we have to try. Weâre all counting on each other <3
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Whatever life you envisioned for yourself, your 20s are when you find out if itâs viableâor what you really want. Money and time matter way more (in my experience), and your friends live further away. You get to do whatever you want, which is amazing and awful.
Expect to hear about peers working their dream jobs while living in inhumane conditions, discovering lifelong passions and quitting their ambitions, and re-making all the choices that seemed permanent at the time. Maybe by 35-40 you can expect consistency, but in the next twenty years your peers will go through a lot and change even more.
Just remember that only having a kid and back issues are forever. When in doubt, find a mentor or a role model. Focus on the present if you can, and journal if you can find the timeâit helps.
Leaving you w/ this pic of sandâa symbol of the passage of time which is most beautiful when observed closely.
Just remember that only having a kid and back issues are forever. When in doubt, find a mentor or a role model. Focus on the present if you can, and journal if you can find the timeâit helps.
Leaving you w/ this pic of sandâa symbol of the passage of time which is most beautiful when observed closely.
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đąLife is fucking confusing, and every want comes with a doubt.
As far as I can tell, your 20s (Iâm 27) are about cobbling together a life while wondering if you should blow it all up. And then someday, hopefully, you fall in love with yourself (or something) and that love becomes a foundation for everything else. I know people who have built things up and torn them down, people who have made irrevocable choices, people who are coasting. I want all of their lives, sometimes, because Iâm sick of the choices I made. I think thatâs just fear of commitment, and not taking good care of myselfâbut who knows, maybe Iâm about to make some choices for the plot.
The people who seem to have it all figured out may be crumbling beneath the surface (me irl). The ones I trust the most know how to look around and say âthere but for the grace of god go I.â Youâre never too old to let whatever youâve been collecting slip through your fingers and choose again.
As far as I can tell, your 20s (Iâm 27) are about cobbling together a life while wondering if you should blow it all up. And then someday, hopefully, you fall in love with yourself (or something) and that love becomes a foundation for everything else. I know people who have built things up and torn them down, people who have made irrevocable choices, people who are coasting. I want all of their lives, sometimes, because Iâm sick of the choices I made. I think thatâs just fear of commitment, and not taking good care of myselfâbut who knows, maybe Iâm about to make some choices for the plot.
The people who seem to have it all figured out may be crumbling beneath the surface (me irl). The ones I trust the most know how to look around and say âthere but for the grace of god go I.â Youâre never too old to let whatever youâve been collecting slip through your fingers and choose again.