Hone in on your personal style! Find out what makes you feel the most like you and what styles you gravitate to. What styles make you feel the most confident! It doesn't matter if it's something you have never worn before yet! A great source is Allison Bornstein on both TikTok and her book. her whole thing is choosing 3 words to hone in on your style, and it's really, really helpful!
Also delete social media! You can create a new one later, but deleting social media will release you from any of your past connections (that might not even be worth holding on to), and get you to know yourself better! It's nice to spend time away from it, but when you do go back, you can show up as the person you want to be and find new local favorites in the new place! xx
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once i got realistic about what type of content i consumed on ig and twitter, i realized so quickly it was not expanding the way i think and in fact was keeping me stuck in the same (oftentimes negative/harmful) thought loopholes. social media is addictive in part because it algorithmically reproduces the way we already think. it keeps us comfortable.
start questioning: what can help expand your life? what other creative and consumptive outlets do you find fulfilling? is there a book you want to read? something you want to draw or write about? or, in general, consider how your older self would have wanted your time to be spent. you are so right that social media makes us feel Bad-- but we don't have to! it is an act of self-care and deep love to work on stepping away from things that hurt!
as far as practical tips, the best things that helped me were:
a) like some others mentioned, deleting ALL social media apps from my phone so i can only access them on my computer. this helps because the online interfaces are a lot clunkier so it reduces some of the quick gratification that keeps you addicted. also you have to be literally sitting at a desk to use it, so the portability aspect/mindless scrolling is largely removed.
b) keeping a journal because it's a much safer space to dump thoughts than a private story
c) prioritizing in-person connection rather than mediating relationships through tech-- meet a friend for coffee! cultivate intimacy rather than superficiality, and notice how irl vs. online connection feels different
d) nervous system regulation and grounding practices to counteract how scrolling can make you anxious/stressed/disembodied!
finally i did struggle a lot with fomo and being behind on trends at first but then i realized it doesn't really matter. trends are fleeting. even without chronic online-ness i am still funny and relatable and i find it much more interesting to hear about people's lives when i haven't been informed about them in an endless information stream online!!
Oct 31, 2024
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Honestly deleting social media (especially instagram) has widen my capacity for new Real world things in so many ways. Being more creative, having more original ideas, honestly just more time To think!!! I think the first month was an adjustment because it was like a dopamine cleanse, lots of overthinking and feelings of intense boredom
A lot of the things projected onto me I realized were not even insecurities of my own but harbored in my brain because of tiktok/instagram
I did worry about having FOMO and not seeing what my friends were up to but I can also just text them and ask ??? I feel like instagram especially is a very PASSIVE and superficial way of connecting with people. I definitely feel like my social circle decreased exponentially without it but for the better 🧍♀️
Sep 20, 2024
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> make a new email
> make new accounts on places like pinterest & tumblr
> change the covers of your music playlists
> curate a new youtube algorithm on a fresh account
> curate a new tiktok algorithm on a fresh account
a few free ways to "start over with life" that don't challenge who you are as a person, nor ask you in interact with anyone in a way that betrays who you are
May 13, 2024
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I know it sounds crazy, but trust me it's so good! All you need is radishes (sliced into however you want! or keep them whole, that's totally fine!), and just roll them into the butter or use a knife to spread it, and a sprinkle of sea salt, and enjoy! it's so simple, and the flavor and texture combo is out of this world good. delicious thinly sliced radishes with a knife on a mandolin (but be careful!!!) with proscuitto and parsley in a sandwich (or on a flatbread/cracker) as well
Also check out Ploughman's lunches!! it's basically that exact vibe and I'm sure there's some inspo on pinterest!
Apr 25, 2024
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I can't tell you how much I love this app. It's a note taking app, but everytime you enter it, it creates a blank document. it makes it seamless to get thoughts out asap!!! It's super basic and bare bones, but having a blank digital document ready as soon as you click the app seriously makes all the difference! They automatically save and sync to your computer if you have the app on your desktop too, so it's easy to sort through and find things.
Apr 17, 2024
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one of my favorite journals is my cooking journal! I have one for each specific year and I write in it monthly, in real time. it consists of my grocery lists, farmers market lists, seasonal produce, meal plans for the week, recipe development (i also have a website i'm working on and a future goal is cookbooks so i'm always journaling this as I work on my recipes!!), meals I had out, dishes from cookbooks catching my eye, recipes i want to try... etc. really, everything food and cooking! it's more of a commonplace book of everything food related where I can develop and create recipes! it's fun to write the recipes out, and you have a place to make notes on what works, what didn't work, what to try, etc. Sometimes I even like to journal what playlists are going with the week - it's fun to see it along side all the cooking. it's always a fun look into the seasons too!
You can also use it to keep track on recipes / traditions you want to remember!
Apr 18, 2024