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What has helped me is being aware that the process hurts no matter what.
And also be aware that at some point it will stop hurting, to know that if it is something that you can no longer control you must let go, and from there, continue with your life, focus on yourself! New experiences bring new thoughts, you just have to stay distracted and everything will pass.
Apr 17, 2024
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π«just think of other situations from the past (maybe other breakups), back then it hurt, but now you're ok with it. it'll be the same this time
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πdo i know that i should move on? absolutely. but would i only hurt myself more by denying acknowledgement of my emotions iβm actually feeling rn? for sure.
itβs okay to be in pain over a situation you know you need to move on from. and itβs okay if that pain lasts longer than you feel it should. all things happen in time. and not a linear one either.
itβs okay to be in pain over a situation you know you need to move on from. and itβs okay if that pain lasts longer than you feel it should. all things happen in time. and not a linear one either.
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πI like to remember that time is on your side, it will get easier as time goes by just for nature of it. So focusing on going through the day-to-day the best you can while being kind to yourself and letting the days past is what helped me.
Itβs not easy, you have to go through the grief to come up on the other side.
But stick with the things that make your present more bearable and you WILL come up on the other side.
For me it was doing things for myself: listening to music, visiting close friends, cooking for myself, going on walks on nature, spending time alone and bored and finding new things I liked and enjoying my own company was life changing.
The loneliness is rough but it can be a great teacher (at least I like to think something had to come out of all that pain).
I guess it really depends on the break up the narratives you are telling yourself right now, but if you can be mindful about them, observe them, and let go of trying to understand and control everything they get less cruel. Right now you just need to survive and receive some kindness, later on you can build the story around it (Without the fog of the pain around it).
And for the love of god cut contact with them, their family and friends, at least for a while. rebuild yourself outside their zone of influence. Show vulnerability if you can, it can bring great support and lending ears, BE KIND TO YOURSELF (although have in mind sometimes over indulgence is not kind).
You will get through it, time is on your side.
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