(And I have adhd) romantic love is expressed intensely in the beginning and then can fizzle out quite quickly. Working on that! And then UN general acts of service and gift giving would be tier 1, quality time and physical touch would tier 2, words of affirmation, tier 3
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romantic gestures (grand or small, whatever you’re into) balanced with honesty, understanding, acceptance, patience, communication and trust. compromise is important too but within reason! you shouldn’t compromise to the point where you lose yourself or feel like you’re settling for the sake of love and the person you love shouldn’t want that either. also, a lot of people want to be in a relationship for the sake of company and companionship and fail to see the other as their own person. so have standards, even if that means you won’t be in a relationship right away. love means being able to be an individual and appreciated as such. love should not be your identity, your identity should be present in how you love. i don’t know i have a very practical but fantastical approach…maybe it’s my taurus venus. personally i fancy a little fun and humor as well. if i can’t be silly with my lover i don’t want it.
May 14, 2024
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Is patience, trust, understanding, commitment, loyalty, acceptance, respect; an active verb rather than a noun; a safe harbor, a bedrock foundation, and a warm hearth. It can wax and wane over time like the phases of the moon or the changing tides of the sea. It may not always be a perfectly distributed 50/50 effort—there can be times where one is giving or receiving more than the other—but it’s going to be there as long as both parties choose to stoke the fire ❤️‍🔥 and I think it starts as simple friendship and grows with more time, familiarity, and mutual effort
May 14, 2024
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I'm not talking notes--I'm talking letter-length expressions of love for the people in your life. Not necessarily romantic, but honestly expressive. Maybe I should say, "love meditations?" Anyways, get deep into one, put words to paper, and I guarantee you'll realize that more of your relationships than you think are profoundly intimate in all kinds of ways. AND you set up a scenario in which you can be the most courageous version of yourself: taking mature ownership of your feelings by actually delivering that bad boy.
Feb 15, 2024
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Cooking is a constant for me - finding new recipes, trying recipes from my brain, etc. This evening I'm starting on simple oil pastle pictures - looked up some inspo on pinterest. It's a great place to look for simple arts and crafts ideas as well.
Apr 16, 2024