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i am sober too and legit the only way i meet other ppl is thru friends and doing activities outside w friends. u don't have to be extroverted, if you rly want it then you'll learn/practice the skills necessary to find connections. if u rly dont wanna do that then joining discords might be an option; my friend legit is marrying the dude she met on reddit lol.
Mar 27, 2024
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ive been single for 5 years so when i moved, going out alone wasn’t really a new concept it was just the unfamiliar environment that was intimidating. so i just had to get over my fear of the literal unknown.
either way, concerts are the easiest place for me to make new connections cus i like to dance and i mean there’s already a solid topic of conversation to lead with (the artist you r there to see 🌚)
dive bars r easy too, i just have a drink at the bar, talk to whoever’s there, and go wherever the wind takes me.
i also just straight up asked my coworkers if anyone wanted to be friends and /or hangout. sometimes (in seattle at least) u just have to be straightforward
my old roommate liked going to queer nights and that’s how she met a few of her friends
my current roommate is into gaming so he goes to gaming meets & card game battles
and i have another friend who loves skating so she goes to skating events
i guess, meet new people thru ur hobbies 🧘🏽♀️
BUT ALSO
don’t be afraid to ask :)
May 16, 2024
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ik it’s cliche to say but it’s the god’s honest truth. generally, people make friends because they share an activity. when you’re a kid, the activity is school, and for some adults the activity is work or parenting.
but if you aren’t interested in the friends available from those activities, you literally just have to go out and do things you already like with other people.
i like music, writing, and #gaming. to make friends of my own i just went to open mics, workshops, and local tournaments respectively. try to find equivalents for the events that you like and i guarantee it will not be long before homie candidates are lining up
Sep 9, 2024
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if there is a simple method to making friends it is seeing the same people at the same place(s) week after week. in some phases of life this is easier; ex, freshman year of college dorm. in other phases of life it is more difficult.
regardless, you have interests. other people have those interests. find people with those interests, that are fun, and also have space in their life for new people. do the interest together at some sort of location. then, invite the various people you've met over for a dinner party. voila- friends.
this isn't always a quick process, and it will likely be often frustrating and disappointing. its worth it though. the internet can help facilitate with meeting similar people who are open to friends.
specific things that have worked for me: going out dancing/club scene, internet(reddit/twitter), friends of friends, seeing movies, having people over for dinner.
good luck!
Mar 11, 2024
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shit was absolutely bonkers and tragic. fascinating to listen to her read it and it's written as if she was the age she experienced these things. idk how a parent gets to this place of abuse but w o w
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