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May it be physical media, scary little dolls, cute plushies, rare coins, shoes, etc.
Itās easier for your friends to find you a present or at least something thatās related to your fixations. :) also itās fun!
Additional rec: if youāre doing the gifting, include something personal, something that you handcraft, something that will take you at least 1-2 hours to make. A pop-up card, cute origamis, a collage, maybe even just a heartfelt letter. Maybe they like frogs? Draw a couple of frogs around the edges on the letter/card. Or some cute stickers that you know theyāll like. Doing so says, āI was thinking of you the whole time I made this. This is for you and you only. You are important to me and I have a lot of time on my hands to curate something for you because I love you!ā <3
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that usually includes a robust list of what they do/are passionate about, which will give you a good jumping off point.
HOWEVER, I am also a big fan of renegade gifting. the most treasured items Iāve ever received as gifts are things that Iād never buy for myself (and therefore would never ask for) but are things the gift giver associates with me.
my mom gave me a calmansi tree one Christmas to remind me of my childhood in the Philippines. one of my bffs got me a handmade leather journal with the last sentence of my thesis stamped in the cover when I graduated. my ex got me pottery classes at a local studio and handmade a fun gift certificate for my last birthday.
I love to give books bc thatās what Iām passionate about, and it can be a fun way to mix my personality with the receiver. the best part about receiving a gift is feeling truly seen by the person
Nov 30, 2024
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remembering they were on the hunt for something,
finding/stumbling upon it sometime in your day,
buying it for them if itās small and affordable enough,
(albeit nothing is too big or expensive if itās for my dear friendsā¦)
and gifting it to them the next time you meet! <3
Mar 15, 2024
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Ik itās not helpful in terms of like easy things to find but Iāve always thought that really good gifts are self referential and gestural rather than explicitly material. kind of like showing you understand what makes a person tick or saying that you really love and appreciate them
Feb 25, 2024
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One thing about me is I love to leave
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When youāre in a slump, youāre in a slump.
Let yourself feel things. The good and the bad. I welcome them like a visitor and I invite them at the pretend dinner table in my head and get to know them, and I try not to ask them why theyāre here. Why I feel things. I just let them be. Know that this will pass, just like a person visiting for a few nights and I try not to hold on to them when theyāre ready to leave (yes those feelings will pass). Sounds very clichĆ© but they do.
From my experience, the longer I fight the sadness/depression/slump, the longer it stays. Iāve learned just to take it day by day. This wouldnāt be possible without months of therapy where it was revealed to me that Iāve been so hard on myself almost my entire life.
I also meditate every night for 15-20 minutes. I take this activity so seriously, just a few minutes to close my eyes and release the tension Iāve felt the whole day. I love staying still. I love to close my eyes and think of nothing. My drive will come back.
What also helps (for me) is taking a few minutes a day to go outside and letting the sun touch my skin. It feels so good. Listen to the birds. Listen to the traffic. Just observe your surroundings and remember that there is life outside you and you are a part of something big and eventually you get inspired by something. May it be small or big. It will come back to you.
Be gentle and kind to yourself <3
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Solves just about anything
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