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i'm probably not the best person to take advice from, but when i'm interested in getting to know someone i like to pay a sincere compliment to either their appearance (outfit, hair) or their general vibe. worst case you just made someones day, because who doesn't love compliments, best case you start a conversation
Mar 11, 2024
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I just start talking to people like we’re already friends 🤷♀️ i often forget to exchange names because of this lol. You can never go wrong with a compliment. Also a fan of “tell me your life story” because I actually want to know and also a lot of people like talking about themselves.
Jul 20, 2024
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This is, I think, the best question I’ve been asked on a date— it lets me answer as superficially or as deeply as I’m comfortable, and it feels better/more sincere than a compliment. Early into a date compliments always feel really superficial, and this is a way to actually ask what someone likes about themselves, instead of telling them what you like about them.
Feb 21, 2024
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Look at them and notice something that they actively chose today. Easy ones are like clothes, bags, jewlery, makeup or whatever. But you’d probably have even better luck with like if they’re holding a shopping bag or a book or a cup of coffee or the keychain on their keys. idk those are just the examples I thought of. But basically that’s something intentional, so that’s something they will have thoughts/feelings/opinions on. Ask a question or make a comment that requires them to reveal that. Like a question you would want someone in your life to ask you about something that you put energy towards, yk? Like for me I always want to talk to people about books I’ve read or that theyve read. Or when Im holding a food or drink I probably could talk about why I wanted that.
But the most important part dude. Is to gauge reaction after that. If they wanna talk more then yay. If not, you gotta let it go don’t push. It’s a them thing, not a you thing.
Sep 10, 2024
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the sheer volume of human emotion on display in dostoevskys work makes me feel so very alive and connected to everything. all my pain, agony, joy, longing, anger and sadness is part of the role i play on this stage. whenever i'm faced with challenges that seem much too difficult for me to figure out, i remember that all i'm feeling is what people have been feeling for thousands of years
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reading gets me sleepy every night. the best books to read in bed are those more focused on rich prose instead of story and dialogue. just getting lost in letters, turns of phrase, looking up silly words like "saturnine" and their etymologies quiets my mind and makes me fall asleep in minutes
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