Historically, I’ve always chosen flight over fight in most scenarios: I’ve quit several toxic jobs <6 months in, am usually the person to end a serious relationship, and have moved cities a few times. Right now, though, I’m in a period where I’m trying to reset my mindset and stick with things through the initial signs of discomfort (currently feeling that way in all big aspects of my life: job that kinda sucks a few months in, rough patches in my live-in relationship, and just generally feeling meh about living in New York FT). Still very much in the thick of it, but my strategy is to just take each day as it comes and reframe discomfort and uncertainty as necessary parts of life and not things to just flee at the first signs.
Mar 6, 2024

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I also quit really fast sometimes...
Mar 6, 2024
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chlonline Certainly keeps life moving and interesting in ways!
Mar 7, 2024
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hey! good for you, I think that takes a lot of nerve and hope you find, as I have, that life rewards you when you embrace the uncomfortable feelings -- keep it up <3
Mar 6, 2024
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devoxox but also be aware if some things really aren't aligning with you or if you're in danger!! cause those are valid and I was manipulated many times by people who taught me complacency and then took advantage... anyways, I know you'll make the right choices for you :)
Mar 6, 2024
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devoxox oh 100%. Definitely making some better choices lately so it’s a smaller list of things I absolutely need to escape. But yeah aside from asking my job to pay me more appropriately, I wanna stick all this stuff out 🫠
Mar 7, 2024

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I’ve quit at least 4 horrible jobs/contracts without something immediately lined up (that I can think of off the top of my head). And wow every time that was the best decision for me each and every time and I never looked back. Granted I’ve otherwise had long tenure at jobs and was lucky enough to either find another opportunity right away (in one case quit before hearing back about an interview the previous day, which I did end up getting) or I was financially prepared to be unemployed. As others have said, definitely consider that you’re trading daily misery + salary, health care, stability, stuff to do with your day for no misery + logistical challenges. But if you are prepared to deal with job searching or just supporting yourself for a bit from your savings while you get on your feet, pls pls pls leave a job that is making you miserable and has no chance of getting any better (burnout is often defined as being in a situation where you have some combination of no upward mobility, continued frustration from the same sources, and endless work all without signs that it’ll get better, so look out for the signs). Man this rec is giving me the ole itch again (current job is pretty bad in a lot of ways, but not quite “leave immediately” status and I do need a salary + healthcare after a long unemployment period last year 😿).
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like a job or a project that just isn’t working or even like quitting an approach or belief you once held. at first it feels bad but then 5 seconds into the quitting you’re like oh god, yes YES
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I quit my job at the beginning of this year. Infinitely lighter, happier. I still have some residual health things, but they are improving. Especially having savings, it's much easier, which I was lucky enough to have in my scenario too. The hardest thing for me has just been the feeling of idleness with a paycheck not coming in regularly, but I just remind myself how much better the rest of my life is... and I'm ok. :)
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