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You trusted someone with your money or your heart or both, and then that person surprises you by fucking you over. fuck!
This sucks a lot and might mess you up pretty bad and make you lose faith in people, but on the other side there is the potential for new found strength as you now have *experience*.
Trusting people is such an essential thing, so after getting scammed when you eventually find ways to trust people again, you’ll do it with a better sense of who to give it to and how much to give and when. That’s a powerful thing, and not easy to understand until you’ve been burned.
Keep trusting, keep getting burned, but hopefully a little less so each time.
Feb 15, 2024
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I think it depends on the rejection. There are levels depending on the situation and relationship. What I keep in mind tho is that unless the person is specially bringing up something I’ve done, it’s not necessarily personal. By that I mean, I don’t assume it’s because I’m wrong or bad. If it’s a job, maybe it’s not a good fit. If it’s romantic, maybe we’re not a good match or they have stuff going on in their life.
I choose to believe that everything is leading me to the life I’m meant to have. So when a rejection happens, it still can hurt, but I always come back to that it’s keeping me open to what’s meant for me. Life rewards you when you open yourself up and are courageous. Go for it, feel your feelings if there is a rejection, reflect if you need to adjust, and then try again!
Sep 25, 2024
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Trusting people is in, asking for help is in, I refuse to take too much responsibility, because I can't trust others to do some stuff for me anymore. Trust is literally the opposite of anxiety. I love trusting people, and not being angry when they fuck up. Trust is awesome.
May 6, 2024
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i have been in situations where it felt like i needed to be the better person for others to think im not hurt. times when i needed to be around people who hurt me really bad in life.
what i learned from that is, some people will never do you dirty again. others will 😂 and when i catch who will hurt me again, i keep them at a distance and don’t invest energy into maintaining anything.
forgiveness should not be guaranteed, and its difficult to have people come in your ear to say you need to forgive in order to move on. no you need ti just set boundaries around people who hurt you and move forward with it. there are so many people back in my college days where mutually things were so bad. will i apologize and forgive them? probably not ill just distance myself from those people and they become an afterthought.
Mar 9, 2025
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Thanks y’all for the fire tips - I had a blast. Just put everyone’s rec’s into a google maps collection so you can find them at the link📍
My addition is the Empire Garden Restaurant in Chinatown. Built into an old vaudeville theater, the food is solid but the atmosphere is absurd and a must see.
Feb 14, 2024
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Grow up and go raw with your phone. It's so much slimmer to hold and in your pocket and people will be put on edge by how carefree you are. But really, it's a sign you have a healthy detachment to your technology. I drop my phone all the time and it's fine!
Dec 11, 2023
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🏠 decent living situation — awful roommates, deadbeat landlords, or psycho neighbors will make you super miserable so try to get this one locked down!
🫂 homies — making new friends can take a long time, but if you commit to putting yourself out there over and over you’ll connect with some truly inspiring and amazing people
🤑 income (even a little) — yes you can get by on dumplings, no Ubers, no bars, etc. but being broke here feels particularly like a prison because most things are stupid expensive. Be on your grind and then blissfully spend it all away
If you end up getting all 3 of these you’re probably gonna be hopelessly addicted to being here just like me. Welcome to NYC :)
Feb 21, 2024