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super bowl is this weekend and i’m outing myself as a football fan. but fr shouting go sportsball past the age of 15 is super lame and you should totally get invested in sports and more specifically the nfl. mostly bc american football is such a stupid sport and the rules make no sense but you prob already know a little (like what a touchdown is) and the rest is sorta just arbitrary. i’ve been following the nfl since i was like 8 or 9 bc that’s how me and my dad bonded and it’s really a saving grace in any conversation with a man. idk how to explain it but american football strikes the most perfect balance of interesting game and good bonding experience with fans…the european mind cannot even begin to grasp. heavily heavily recommend.
Feb 9, 2024
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any sport. i follow american football, basketball, and on occasion, tennis. keeping up with them throughout their seasons gives me something to look forward to every year. becoming a sports fan is also a great way to make new friends. you don't even have to become a sicko. there's a lot of enjoyment to be had in being a casual sports fan.
Oct 20, 2024
Which is lowkey impossible but I just feel like i need more reasons to yell “let’s go!” at a tv
Feb 11, 2025
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I’ve been casually keeping abreast of what’s going on in sports recently. For most of my life, I wasn’t interested in sports at all— if anything I sort of looked down my nose at sports & sports fans. I saw it all as bread & circus for the proles. I was a fool, I see that now. I enjoy watching sports & thinking about sports now. One of the best parts of being on the level wrt to what’s going on sportswise is talking about sports with anyone. Anyone! It’s like learning a new language. 5 beers deep with your buddies, shooting the shit with your coworkers, small talk with total strangers. It’s great. It’s the ultimate conversation topic. You can go anywhere with it. You can bullshit. You really just need to know a little bit, not that much. I am a prole, I am a normie, I am a Roman peasant phillistine but man this bread tastes great, man am I having a blast at the circus
Jan 26, 2025
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if you think you’re the smartest person in your friend group you’re weird and annoying. the best friendships come out of mutual awe and respectability. be friends with people who make you want to know more things.
Jan 29, 2024
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i will never be in a situationship in the same way i will never be in the land of oz--it's just not real. i think using the word doesn't let you self-reflect in a way that is truly helpful. i was telling my friend about the awkwardness of seeing an exhook up in a relationship bc i thought we had mutual feelings and she said "oh your exsituationship" and i thought (for the first time) no, we had clear boundaries i just got my hopes up. my point is that instead of using situationship as a catch-all for not quite dating or wtv failed prospect, take it as a moment to reflect on what exactly went wrong. idk if this is profound or not
Jan 30, 2025
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idk if any of this will be remotely helpful, but this is generally how i see socializing
to find friends:
1. do something consistently
2. do something where other people are also (generally) by themselves
3. do something that requires discussion
exercise classes, coffee shops, open studios, libraries, organizing/protesting/charity work; really to acquire friends you just have to do things that's it. do things you like so you are around people who share similar interests and thus will have a higher "friend hit rate" but really the most essential point on the list is the first one (the other two are nice bonus'). with enough consistency you become noticed and then boom.
on becoming friends:
1. open invites
2. follow ups
now that you've just met some people, get them into your circle by open inviting them to things. if you're going out later that night, offer for them to join. if you're both in a pottery class maybe offer an open invite to a gallery you're visiting. this is how you shift casual acquaintances to actual friends. the important thing is to concretize your plans tho. you're not trying to pressure them but you do want to make them feel like it was more than just a vapid offer, so after you suggest it wait a bit and follow up with details. this also goes for the reverse of being given an open invite.
on being friends:
1. do
the best piece of advice (which might have come from pi.fyi) is that sometimes you just need to be the doer. maybe you see a tiktok about a picnic with friends and you think dang wouldn't it would be cool if my friends did that. well, there's nothing stopping you, you have to be the friend that does stuff. obviously this is a little time consuming and exhausting but generally people want to pay it forward so once you get the ball rolling on the friend group doing stuff, people usually follow suit
also fear is the mind killer, go forth and be
Jan 27, 2025