i am sorry to hear you have this invisible to others pain.
parent yourself- how you would counsel your own child or younger sibling suffering rn? a menu of options: prioritize sleep, exercise regardless, engage music and dance, find creative release, seek out others similarly situated for support, try therapy and/or faith practice, big pharma has pills, playgrounds the sound of joy...apply "sometimes treats" like a mocha as reward for trying one of the above. psychedelics are working for some. know this too will pass and does not define you as a human. stay strong.
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ive been forcing myself to cook big meals when sad (tears taste great!) and putting myself in bubble baths when i need to slow down and telling myself to put on the damn jacket and making myself take deep breaths and listening to me tell me that I’m doing fine- life is infinitely lighter when intentionally deciding to be kind to yourself- channeling overbearing parent when needed- as opposed to living off of caffeine and existential dread
Feb 5, 2025
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when i‘m in those holes i usually find that i need to just ride it out, but to make riding it out more tolerable— i try do the little things that make me happy that i usually don’t do often. eat an ice cream cone, read in the bath for two hours, buy a new perfume, write a letter to a pal, be tender with yourself. it’s easy to stay down when you feel like you should be getting over it, so try not to pressure yourself. let it happen the way it’s going to happen and remember that life is good and then sometimes it’s bad and then it gets good again. take joy where you can get it, and don’t be afraid to tell the people that love you that you might need a little extra love for a while. good luck, buddy. ❤️
Apr 6, 2024
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i find that hanging out with friends helps me a lot, like the people that really make you laugh and feel good about yourself. that being said, it is totally okay to wallow in the sadness and feel it, because that is the only way it will ever pass. i would play sad music from a playlist and allow myself to cry for the duration of the playlist, then when it was over i would get up and try to do something else. this helps set a boundary while allowing you to feel the emotions and still be productive. also, find things that you love doing. for me, it was anything creative. making art that reflects how i'm feeling was a great outlet. eat good food, cry, hangout with friends, go to bookstores, cry, go to art galleries, redecorate your room, treat yourself to some new clothes, cry, do some yoga, go on an outside walk/hike, cry. and then wake-up every day and do the best that you can. it really does get better, i promise. sending hugs, you got this!!
Jun 20, 2024
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Apr 14, 2024
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they loss, just a redirect. find volunteer work even if it is 1 hour a week. compartmentalize the online job searching and force activities that bring pleasure, ideally irl. Freedom isn’t exactly free but time is all we have so in a way congrats on the new wealth. Hope you find formidable fit at your next place of employ!
Apr 19, 2024