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it’s an easy thing to hate but at the end of the day i love america so much. like it’s so big and has so many cities and farms and people and sometimes i’m just like struck by an immense amount of gratitude and it’s like holy fuck i live here.
Feb 3, 2024
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if you can reconcile an appreciation for the geography and people of america with a disdain for its government and institutions there’s a lot to love, don’t think I’ll live anywhere else
Feb 4, 2024
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😃I love that I can walk around Walmart in my pajamas and no one gives a shit. I love that we have a god given right to fistfight in parking lots and Waffle Houses. I love living in a wild west where I can slip through the cracks of bureaucracy. Lots of things I don’t like about America but the social contract is paper thin, which can be freeing
Jul 3, 2025
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🇺plus old fashioned diners and like costco
that’s my short list for america overall there’s some state specific things tho too many to list
trying not to mourn my country as i type 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
trying not to mourn my country as i type 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
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haha no i’m just kidding, americas fucked. look at this dorky ass statue i saw the other day.
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⭐if you think you’re the smartest person in your friend group you’re weird and annoying. the best friendships come out of mutual awe and respectability. be friends with people who make you want to know more things.
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😗i will never be in a situationship in the same way i will never be in the land of oz--it's just not real. i think using the word doesn't let you self-reflect in a way that is truly helpful. i was telling my friend about the awkwardness of seeing an exhook up in a relationship bc i thought we had mutual feelings and she said "oh your exsituationship" and i thought (for the first time) no, we had clear boundaries i just got my hopes up. my point is that instead of using situationship as a catch-all for not quite dating or wtv failed prospect, take it as a moment to reflect on what exactly went wrong. idk if this is profound or not
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🔊idk if any of this will be remotely helpful, but this is generally how i see socializing
to find friends: 1. do something consistently 2. do something where other people are also (generally) by themselves 3. do something that requires discussion exercise classes, coffee shops, open studios, libraries, organizing/protesting/charity work; really to acquire friends you just have to do things that's it. do things you like so you are around people who share similar interests and thus will have a higher "friend hit rate" but really the most essential point on the list is the first one (the other two are nice bonus'). with enough consistency you become noticed and then boom.
on becoming friends: 1. open invites 2. follow ups now that you've just met some people, get them into your circle by open inviting them to things. if you're going out later that night, offer for them to join. if you're both in a pottery class maybe offer an open invite to a gallery you're visiting. this is how you shift casual acquaintances to actual friends. the important thing is to concretize your plans tho. you're not trying to pressure them but you do want to make them feel like it was more than just a vapid offer, so after you suggest it wait a bit and follow up with details. this also goes for the reverse of being given an open invite.
on being friends: 1. do the best piece of advice (which might have come from pi.fyi) is that sometimes you just need to be the doer. maybe you see a tiktok about a picnic with friends and you think dang wouldn't it would be cool if my friends did that. well, there's nothing stopping you, you have to be the friend that does stuff. obviously this is a little time consuming and exhausting but generally people want to pay it forward so once you get the ball rolling on the friend group doing stuff, people usually follow suit
also fear is the mind killer, go forth and be
to find friends: 1. do something consistently 2. do something where other people are also (generally) by themselves 3. do something that requires discussion exercise classes, coffee shops, open studios, libraries, organizing/protesting/charity work; really to acquire friends you just have to do things that's it. do things you like so you are around people who share similar interests and thus will have a higher "friend hit rate" but really the most essential point on the list is the first one (the other two are nice bonus'). with enough consistency you become noticed and then boom.
on becoming friends: 1. open invites 2. follow ups now that you've just met some people, get them into your circle by open inviting them to things. if you're going out later that night, offer for them to join. if you're both in a pottery class maybe offer an open invite to a gallery you're visiting. this is how you shift casual acquaintances to actual friends. the important thing is to concretize your plans tho. you're not trying to pressure them but you do want to make them feel like it was more than just a vapid offer, so after you suggest it wait a bit and follow up with details. this also goes for the reverse of being given an open invite.
on being friends: 1. do the best piece of advice (which might have come from pi.fyi) is that sometimes you just need to be the doer. maybe you see a tiktok about a picnic with friends and you think dang wouldn't it would be cool if my friends did that. well, there's nothing stopping you, you have to be the friend that does stuff. obviously this is a little time consuming and exhausting but generally people want to pay it forward so once you get the ball rolling on the friend group doing stuff, people usually follow suit
also fear is the mind killer, go forth and be
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