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An underrated memoir. Irreverent and gossipy, and affirming to the writer girlies who have a lot to say but worry they’re not scholarly enough!!! (Specifically in its writing style, not the subject matter)
Jan 26, 2024
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I inhaled this as a teen and I’m probably due for a reread. Etiquette isn’t about mindlessly adhering to stuffy arbitrary rules; it’s about being considerate of other people and shaping the interactions you have with them with intent. This is the Bible of social skills, written with dry, darkly funny wit!
"Why do people keep asking Miss Manners what to say, in a social situation, when they are offered drugs? What ever happened to 'Yes, please' and 'No, thank you'?"
“As successful people are afraid of being used, unsuccessful people are afraid of being snubbed, interesting people want to talk about something different from their jobs and boring people won’t stop talking about their jobs.”
“Miss Manners corrects only upon request. Then she does it from a distance, with no names attached, and no personal relationship, however distant, between the corrector and the correctee. She does not search out errors like a policeman leaping out of a speed trap. When Miss Manners observes people behaving rudely, she behaves politely to them, and then goes home and snickers about them afterward.”
Feb 20, 2025
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Cute & pithy subversion of ”wherever you go, there you are”, the mantra that basically ruled my life for three years. Gave me recognition of agency that I sorely needed when surrendering myself to my circumstances and making peace with everything just wasn’t cutting it.
Happens to be the title of a short essay from All Things Are Too Small by Becca Rothfeld, an essay collection that turned me upside down, held me by the ankle, and shook me until a whole bunch of unquestioned Goods fell right out of my worldview, including (the subject of this essay!!) western meditation and the self control in pursuit of indifference that is its ultimate stated aim.
This essay in particular I think goes on for a little too long but hey!! Excess and indulgence in all things sex and love and thought and beauty and worldly items - each are handled completely separately and thoughtfully and wittily and I can’t blame her for making the words and passages themselves as lush and voluminous as their subjects reportedly ought to be. If you read it (I hope you do!!!) it’ll change the way and depth in which you think about Something and it won’t even be the thing you expect
Aug 8, 2024
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a memoir about the author's hard-earned financial literacy told in a way I find very endearing.
Jan 15, 2025
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