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people will hate me for this but as a new yorker i love going to jersey. it’s always a fun little adventure and nj transit tickets aren’t that expensive. there’s a bunch of good ethnic food that doesn’t cost $15 for an appetizer + people respect you more cause you’re from new york. but you can’t just go to the new york parts of jersey like hoboken, i’m talking new brunswick/metropark/edison CENTRAL JERSEY, that’s where the real shit is
Jan 25, 2024
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Greatest place- gave us Harold and Kumar, Clerks, The Sopranos, Bruce Springsteen, Bruce Willis, Obv the flick Garden State, Kyle from South Park, etc. Im technicallyy moving to NYC but more importantly, I am living in New Jersey for a month before. And I am taking my happy ass to Wawa daily
It has everything I could ever desire and I don’t feel the need to defend it further
Nov 3, 2023
Some of the dopest bitches I ever met are from New Jersey… I am from New Jersey. New Jersey contains so many multitudes.
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i moved from philly to jersey recently (which doesn‘t sound big because they’re close (but trust me)) and i‘m in a really weird maybe very melodramatic state of mourn. i love where i’m from and who it’s made me and the GIFT of perspective i’ve received from growing there
Feb 13, 2025
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if you think you’re the smartest person in your friend group you’re weird and annoying. the best friendships come out of mutual awe and respectability. be friends with people who make you want to know more things.
Jan 29, 2024
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i will never be in a situationship in the same way i will never be in the land of oz--it's just not real. i think using the word doesn't let you self-reflect in a way that is truly helpful. i was telling my friend about the awkwardness of seeing an exhook up in a relationship bc i thought we had mutual feelings and she said "oh your exsituationship" and i thought (for the first time) no, we had clear boundaries i just got my hopes up. my point is that instead of using situationship as a catch-all for not quite dating or wtv failed prospect, take it as a moment to reflect on what exactly went wrong. idk if this is profound or not
Jan 30, 2025
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idk if any of this will be remotely helpful, but this is generally how i see socializing
to find friends:
1. do something consistently
2. do something where other people are also (generally) by themselves
3. do something that requires discussion
exercise classes, coffee shops, open studios, libraries, organizing/protesting/charity work; really to acquire friends you just have to do things that's it. do things you like so you are around people who share similar interests and thus will have a higher "friend hit rate" but really the most essential point on the list is the first one (the other two are nice bonus'). with enough consistency you become noticed and then boom.
on becoming friends:
1. open invites
2. follow ups
now that you've just met some people, get them into your circle by open inviting them to things. if you're going out later that night, offer for them to join. if you're both in a pottery class maybe offer an open invite to a gallery you're visiting. this is how you shift casual acquaintances to actual friends. the important thing is to concretize your plans tho. you're not trying to pressure them but you do want to make them feel like it was more than just a vapid offer, so after you suggest it wait a bit and follow up with details. this also goes for the reverse of being given an open invite.
on being friends:
1. do
the best piece of advice (which might have come from pi.fyi) is that sometimes you just need to be the doer. maybe you see a tiktok about a picnic with friends and you think dang wouldn't it would be cool if my friends did that. well, there's nothing stopping you, you have to be the friend that does stuff. obviously this is a little time consuming and exhausting but generally people want to pay it forward so once you get the ball rolling on the friend group doing stuff, people usually follow suit
also fear is the mind killer, go forth and be
Jan 27, 2025