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ghosting/getting ghosted
I believe it's far more polite than telling someone you barely know you're not particularly fond of them; or that whatever they're asking you to do is stupid and you're not interested. alternatively, getting ghosted keeps you humble.
this is one of modern technologies greatest gifts and must be treated as such.
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@uncle_hesh
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@chelly
pissbowling very important Q re ethical date maximum!!! i dont have the answer but... i salute the inquiry and overall embrace that none of us have any idea wtf is going on
Jan 16, 2024
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@brennankeeley
this is the first recommendation I disagree with on here, but I can see and understand this. Ugh! Its like I wish life was more like 1984
Jan 15, 2024
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@paula
I wrote the same rec a while ago but deleted it bc there‘s so much shaming around ghosting and i felt embarrassed. But really, with technology came an unreasonable expectation of being always open to communication, always responsive, always emotionally involved. The human brain (or at least my brain) cant manage all that. I wish ghosting wouldn’t be generally considered necessarily evil, because most of the times it’s just people trying to handle their time and live their lives.
Jan 11, 2024
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@pissbowling
No one’s bad!! Just my opinion and preference 😇
Jan 11, 2024
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@j_kung
ngl as much as I hate being ghosted it did built character and TOUGH skin for me.
Jan 11, 2024
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@uncle_hesh
Idk yo I’m pro ghost I’m honestly pro everyone could be a little more mean to eachother maybe jus me tho my badd
Jan 11, 2024
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@pissbowling
ghosting after like 1 or 2 dates is fine but after that I appreciate or do a quick like hey!! this isn’t for me What is the ethical date maximum for ghosting
Jan 11, 2024
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